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I have to jump in on this and say I agree. This relationship is bad news. For someone to want you to do everything their way and monitor your every move is not okay. If I had a SO that told me I couldn't see my friends or go out when I wanted to I would laugh in their face. This man has a history of mental illness and you don't need any part of that. I'd say cut your 9 month loss and move on girlfriend! There's a man out there who will trust you and will win you and your family over.
LDR rocks! I badly need you GLOW friends...tnx
I had 9 mos ldr relationship, supposed to be 10mos last 10th. We are madly in love to each other even we are in million miles away apart, we had so much! We had everything in part of relationship, we both planned the meet ups, and I kept refusing the proposal because nobody's in my family knows about us unlike to his families are all aware about us except his father and they helped planning for our settlement, for the BER mos this year supposedly. Since he really wanted to inform my family about us so that we can be completely free to do everything we want and we like and to accept the engagement ring, to get married, be free to our family, he did a moves! He talked my family and asked my hand and blessings through social media using my private account because they are all in abroad. Then they are all shocked since I didn't shared any even a little about us, because he used my private account so they are all asking about what's happening? Then he explained everything especially about us and then my siblings like not in favor to us! A big NO.. THEN I broke up him for the sake of my family because they asked me to choose so I decided abruptly and obeyed them. After a days since we still shared our accounts so someone who did something to my account that made me fall to the ground and everybody was shocked and my family hated me so much and didn't talked me anymore for disappointments! He was always with me and he never give up, that's why he did EVERYTHING whether it's good or bad just to win me but since I want my family back I sacrificed him to let me go because I really don't know what to do at that time. From first month to 9 months we faced so much! He committed suicide many times and he was failed from some subject because of me and he did so much for our future, he planned everything. Everything for us was well-planned. A little background about him, he graduated by the course of comp.engg last 3mos ago then he started working abruptly for us even he was fully supported by his parents. And he was always monitoring me 24/7. Location must be always turned on, whatever or wherever you go he must be informed and he must know every detail. My attention should be always for him after my work,sleep and etc...once I was free it should be all for him. All the people I was talking and whom I'm with, he must know and sometimes he doesn't want me to go out during weekend to meet my friends,best friends. He had an accessed every detail of me, especially my phone, he can see everything in my phone through apps. He can check everything he want to see. That's why every single detail in my inbox and missed calls and everything was asked then all must be explained even no need to explain. Every little things must be discuss. And etc.. more and more! Then from the last time we talked he said he can and he will wait if that's what I want or my family wants even though i already know about from my family. I think you guys already know the reaction as a family when it comes to this. But he never gave up, he took all the risk for us. He really loves me.
My question now is what's the best thing I SHOULD or I CAN DO??? Do you think is he really a good man??? Or what can you say or can describe about him??? What can you say about me too? I admit i can't forget him like every seconds and every minutes he was in my mind, especially when im not busy and i forget and forgive everything for all the bad he did to me because I love him! Yes I still Do! and he really do! We have still a way to communicate but we are not talking, we only just attempting like typing but we didn't send it, only to feel that we are there, sometimes through statuses in gmail & whatsapp only and we both know that because it's visible. One more thing! one of the reasons why i choose to leave him because i cannot do one of what he wants to have SEX in Skype since he will wait, so the time was extended but we did only in phone and it's okay with me. but in skype? I cant! I just can't do that. Just for the info..I'm still V 😂
Now... I badly need your empower words GLOW friends to enlighten me, at least.. Any positive or negative comments will be appreciated & it will be a big help for my fast recovery from heartache & Then if u ask anything then your question will be answered graciously.
thanks for reading..
thank you so much! 💔😥 God bless
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Ra
On his mental health
Ra
There is nothing wrong with a strong personality. I have one. Lol. Man and woman need to be equal. It's really messed up that he would say that to you. I think you leaving and staying gone is the best thing for both of you. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and he needs to focus
Pe
@Rachael i was really terrified, i saw it with my eyes and i was the one who responsible for it since i was the reason. his friends and his brother and his cousin knows everything they are like whatever happened to us they are With us too, even his mom helping us. his reason is to feel that he was with me whatever i do wherever i go he was with me. always! and in short, monitoring.
Get out now. Any guy that wants to monitor what you're doing is not going to be a good long-term partner. He won't be a partner, he'll be a jailer and you will end up lonely and estranged from all of your friends and family.
Pe
thank you @Michelle ... ohhh you are not the one who said that and thanks. Really helps! he really wanted to talk my mom but i never give him a chance until i ended it up.
Honestly he sounds like a nightmare. He monitors everything you do? That's scary, there's a word for that, Stalker. He sounds way too controlling. If he's controlling you from that far away, just imagine how he'd be in person. The possibilities are scary of what could happen. Just be careful, and I think you did the right thing by breaking up with him. Have you spoken on the phone, have you video chatted? For all you know he could be a 75 year old pervert. 🍀
Pe
Exactly! honestly in the first few mos of our relationship i had that feeling, like he owns my whole life but i was immuned,i learned to adjust even we often fighting coz im not a good obedient. you are right too never know what people are capable of. his family and i already talking about everything.they are so nice to me but yes I think it's obvious what's the problem about us.
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OK well at least you know he's who he says he is. but even still he sounds like he could be dangerous. knowing where you are at every minute is frightening to be honest. Hopefully he isn't dangerous, but you never really know what people are capable of. it's probably best to completely cut contact with him. if you haven't already. obviously I don't know the whole story, but just from what you've said, this guy sounds no good.
Pe
Hi @Crystal.Yes he did that, every single thing & little thing i did, every seconds, minutes,hours counted. actually he's younger than me almost 2years and yes we videochatted,talked by scheduling and we chatted every free time. Phone must be always with me and i saw already his families and they are so nice to me! even his friends.. He did a lot of videos too for me. you are not the only one who said that about him. i am just thinking now but honestly it helps! Do you think he can hurt me physically? Thankyou
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