Any other single women? In need of hope and support.

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That are pregnant or have gone through a pregnancy alone. The father and I just ended things over a major irreconcilable difference that I said was a deal breaker for me.

In short we had an alternative relationship and a person whom he was trying to bring in told me she was very jealous and needed to always be number one or else. So after her saying that and then ignoring me and avoiding me and huffing and puffing each time I tried to talk about it and storming off I told him "This is your decision on if she stays or goes but remember every action bears a consequence." So as of last night I ended things and am now moving back home 8 states away. I really need some support as my family and friends I can't talk to about this so I've just told them we just feel it's best to not continue due to personal differences and will have joint custody swapping every 6 mo after the baby is born. I'm terrified to go through the last few months of this pregnancy, birth and parenting alone.

I feel beyond betrayed and hurt. I never wanted this for me or my child. But I refuse to continue to grapple at her feet while it was her who was in the wrong.

We do in fact have a custody agreement that is going to be signed by a lawyer in both states this isn't just a he said she said agreement. Just to relax everyone's mind.

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How would that work when school starts. The custody I mean. I wouldn't let my child
Go with anyone with out a custody agreement. Like the person who comments before me he doesn't have to give you back the baby. On the other note. If your strong enough to leave this man while your pregnant your strong enough to do this on your own. Surround your self with loved ones and I'm sure you'll be just fine

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Never ever agree to do this child custody split thing! What if he decides he wants to get back at you and never give you your baby back???? No! Y'all do a mutual parental agreement that doesn't involve a huge time gap.and besides that... You really do deserve better.for yourself and your baby.be glad his ass is gone! He did you a favor! He not king of the Damn world! He shouldn't be able to have you and her! Get you a man way better than him that only wants you! And be happy with the next guy.be glad his punk ass gone.because he And she both sound like a Damn headache.

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I did pregnancy and raising my daughter alone for the first year of her life. I got married after that. Me personally. I liked being alone in the process. Because I relied on myself, got things done the way I wanted it and had no hassle in fighting on a name or whatever. But after the baby is born in my opinion I don't think you should do the custody that way. But then again it is your child and you will do what is best for your child :) the easiest part I think is pregnancy. After that with dad in other state and a new baby it is difficult. My situation was very different. But I would suggest talking with your family before making a big decision like that about custody and all that. They will be more help support wise. Good luck!!!

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I have a friend who broke up with the father of her baby (a couple years ago) while she was pregnant. He signed ALL of his rights away and then somehow got them back. They now swap her every 5 weeks and it's hell. She's fighting for full custody right now. So I would really think long and hard about the swapping, especially for such a long period of time. And like everyone else has said, if there is no formal written agreement, he could keep your child. I firmly believe you can do it! You don't need him. He obviously didn't care about you or your child enough to stay with you. You don't want to risk your child being in an unloving home when they're over there. I would just cover all your bases. If he wants to see his child, he can come visit himself. He has to prove himself worthy. This is all just my opinion though :) best of luck to you!

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It will be ok...me personally would not do a spilt custody agreement because he don't have to give child back....i by no means saying what you should do because I don't know y'all...being a single parent is hard but it gets easier but it is emotional choice cause it feels like you are neglecting your child when your working all the time but how I do it is I tell myself I work for my son and to buy him things He wants and do things with him that I was never able to as a child...good luck

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I was single and pregnant from 6 weeks on. Still single and have a 1 1/2 year old. Her father has never met her and probably won't unless she expresses interest in that as she gets older. It's been hard and easy at the same time. So grateful everyday that I'm not forced to have a custody agreement.

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