Do you believe in healthy fear?

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Do you feel like scare tactics are cruel or necessary? For example, fear of your father or mother, fear of the law. Do you feel that fear corresponds healthily with respect of an object or being? For example, I am afraid of my father because I will be disciplined. I respect my father and would not invoke negative reactions from him out of respect, and fear of consequence. 
Or do you feel like fear and respect can be exclusive and that respect can be taught without the use of fear? Do you feel that scare tactics are detrimental to society, and have actually caused more harm than reward?

I'm curious to know how people feel about this topic.

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You shouldn't fear anyone. You can respect someone without fear.

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There is a type of proper fear, such as fear of disappointing or getting disapproval  to someone, so it keeps us out of trouble.

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I don't see how taking power through inducing fear can ever be see as healthy.

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Respect n Fear r 2 totally different things! I had a step dad that taught fear! I feared him so I obeyed him unless I knew I could get away w/ something! But I NEVER Respected him! N in the end that fear left when I left his house! He hadn't taught me anything useful specifically bcuz he used fear tactics! He was never physically abusive(he spanked very rarely that was only thing physical except breaking down a door if I locked him out room) but was very controlling n emotionally abusive(all fear tactics!)! When I didn't have to live w/ him anymore, I felt I didn't have to follow his rules anymore n cuz he never explained Real reasons Why I shouldn't do things I had no real reasons not to do them anymore! cuz their was Nomore fear of punishment from him anymore! Even when i still lived w/ him me n my sister would do things behind his back as long as we could get away w/ it(we smoked 10y/o, she ran away w/ BF 2X at 14yr.)! Once we got away w/ a few things that were illegal or bad, especially if it turned out those things were fun, it made me MORE likely to try worse things n lead me dwn a path of destruction for many years! UNTIL I learned for Myself WHY I wasn't suppose to do certain things! Bcuz of fear tactics I learned the hard way that there's REASONS why we as people, r suppose to obey laws, Rules, b respectful, nice, work, etc!!!

My niece was raised w/o fear, she was always told reasons WHY she's not suppose to do something n she is the most well behaved young woman I've ever met! She's 14 now! She has dreams of becoming a forensic anthropologist so she can help ppl! She's a dancer n stays after school to tutor autistic kids(She CHOSE to when she was old enough)! Ppl would ask my sister to watch her all the time cuz she has always been so well behaved! I mean literally ppl would call n ask!

These r 2 Prime examples, but I have many friends that were raised both ways n All had similar outcomes! TEACH Respect NOT fear!!! Fear dies, True Respect lives 4ever!

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I have a healthy fear of things. I think there is a boarder some people cross with fear and that is the time that you need to see the doctor.

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i would never fear my parents but i will always respect them. fear is not a positive emotion to have. there is no such thing as 'healthy fear'. people are taught to overcome their fears in life and as parents we should NEVER instill fear purposely. unless you wanna be paying for your kids' therapy later.

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feat doesnt equal respect and the saying that if they cant respect me then they will fear me in my mind is abusive.

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Absolutely. If someone doesn't "fear" discipline and/or other consequences, what's to stop them from acting out? That said, not everyone cares or is afraid of getting in trouble. I'm sure we all at one point in our childhood went against our parent's wishes, only to get caught. It's all cause and effect: if you do ____, expect that ____ could happen.

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I don't think fear is ever a good tactic in the long run. There are better ways to earn respect.

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Fear is not a reliable or effective way of earning respect. As a personal example, I have no respect, pity or compassion for my birth parents and biological sister.

There were decent times, but the majority of it was fear mongering, screaming, and telling me that I was a whore, worthless and stupid.

The people I do respect are my teachers who've taken the time to recognize my dyslexia and taken the extra time to remember that my 5s are backwards.

I respect my husband, no matter our economic position, where we're living, he makes a point of always putting my wants and needs ahead of his own. All while earning top grades in college, and now working diligently as a mechanical engineer for the department of defense.

In Asatru, the contemporary name for the Viking religion; respect is earned, and you're expected to put on a brave face in the event of anything you fear.

There's even a tattoo called the helm of awe whose meaning is that those equal to or below you should not disrespect you as you have the full backing of the Gods and your ancestors. It also shows any one who holds power over you that they should not abuse that power, and that includes using fear tactics to gain your respect. As the Gods, your ancestors and your equals have your back.

Do you believe in healthy fear?

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