Cannot stand my husband.

Let me first state I love him and want to work through our problems always. But he is a bully. He makes the kids and myself cry cuz he doesn't know when to stop "playing". He works hard and does try his best to provide for our family but every time we fight he tells me I'm only with him for his money. The beginning of our relationship it was me who worked and him who floated from job to job. Where we live now is near his good paying job but no family or friends. He won't let me work because he said it would only pay for daycare. When he first started this job there was no need for me to work but now he has taken out 7 loans and we can't keep up. I'm just so tired of fighting and will admit most of the time we are both stressed about money. Just now we got into it because of something that could of been easily gotten over but when he gets mad he says things to hurt me intentionally. So I told him to go to sleep and just let me be since we're spending the night at his aunts house and didn't want to fight. He called my name for over 30 mins until I finally started to talk to him which let to us fighting and the only way I got peace and quiet was to make him so mad that he didn't want to talk to me so he went to sleep. And he thinks I treat him so badly. I told him he's a bully but he doesn't see it. Any advice is helpful.