How much is to much??

Question

Hello ladies, I've been wondering when you start a relationship with someone how much should you shear about your past??

BackStory: I held the believe that being 100% honest going into a relationship was very important. So when I started dating this one guy I was very open about my past. Which wasnt much since I had only been with one other guy. Well everything was great until he started asking about my sex history. I felt I had nothing to hide so I was honest. Everything seemed to change after that, when he would try to bring up the subject again I would try to evade it. But that would only anger him, saying I wouldnt tell him because sex with my ex was so much better than with him (Which wasnt true). I would than give in and answer him so he wouldnt be mad. But then he wouldnt believe me, saying that I was lying so he wouldnt feel bad (wth). There was just No winning with this guy. Things got so bad I just couldnt take it any more. He would say it made him so angry and jealous just to think someone else had been with the girl he loved. He just couldnt get past it. In the other hand he had been with many women, and it didnt bother me. I feel like it was my fault for not keeping my mouth shut, and I should be more reserved and vague in my next relationship.

Answer

If the current person your with is jealous of your previous relationship that's not your fault. They're insecure, and probably have a personal issue to work out.

That being said, if it's a condition that you must have been a virgin before engaging in a relationship, or you have to lie about how many partners you've had to be with them and keep the current partner happy that is a huge red flag! A partner should accept you, your past present and future as a whole and cherish that, not get hung up on what you did before.

Answer

You shouldn't have to hide anything about your past because that is what made you who you are today.  If the boy can't deal with your past then he can't be a part of your present and will never be in your future.

I wouldn't lay it all out in the table on your first date or anything but if he asks tell him.  Don't lie and don't beat around the bush thinking he will assume something different because that is also lying.  Just tell him about it and don't make it out to be such a big deal.  Just Be yourself and say what you want.  If he doesn't like it then move on

Answer

You should not have to hide anything from the one you love.  True love, real love... is unconditional.

There is always the chance that future partners will feel awkward about talking or hearing about past sexual encounters.  There is always the chance that they may experience a bit of jealousy too.  However, when you love someone that awkwardness or jealousy should not interfere with the relationship you are currently in.

I love my SO, he is absolutely amazing.  Yes, hearing about his past relationships and sexual experiences is awkward; yes, sometimes it is uncomfortable; yes, I may have experienced a small amount of jealousy at the beginning of our relationship.  AND, I know that the past is in the past and its there for a reason.  I know that we love eachother honestly, openly, and unconditionally.  I know that he and I are together for a reason.

Our past, regardless of how checkered it may or may not be, is what makes us who we are today. Who we are today, is who those who love us love.

Who you are today, is who your boyfriend is attracted to; who he cares for; who he has chose to be his partner.  Whether he likes it or not, your past is what made you, you.

How much is to much??

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey