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Okay, I'm 20, my boyfriend is 23. I'm in college and recently moved out of my parents and into campus. Before my boyfriend and I became official he lost he job, home and all of his savings. He's living with his mother now. We've been dating only 2 months and there's been a lot of pressure from my family for him to either find something or I leave him basically. He's been trying to find something, various avenues and what not. I feel like I push too hard and get very upset when something fails through or doesn't pan out like I thought or takes too long. He does make me happy I just worry that something won't give and I'll be forced to leave. What do I do or even think? :(

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Why would they force you to leave him 1) you're grown & 2 ) you said he's trying to find a job can't they be sympathetic, it's not always easy to find a job right away.

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My husband was just unemployed for 3 months. The market is tough! He was putting in around 8 hours a day job searching and talking to people about job searching and networking. How hard is your boyfriend working? If it's hard, that's fine. If he's only kind of looking, that's not. There is a range in between there where you have to make your own judgement call.

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Two months into a relationship and your family are pressuring him? They need to back off. None of their business and it's not like you're married and have a family to support.

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It's not like he is unemployed and you are fixing to get married. It's still early, I wouldn't stress too much yet, as long as he is trying to get back on his feet.

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Do what feels right to you. He is actively looking for a job and you say he makes you happy. You are a grown woman and can make your own decisions. You're parents will always tell you what they think. It doesn't mean you have to do what they say.

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Continue on making good decisions for yourself and definitely do not compromise your college education for any relationship. Hopefully your family will not pressure you negatively, but I always found it is important to trust those around you. I would look at his situation...having all those life challenges come up does raise some red flags which may need to paid attention to. Your family has known you a long time and hopefully they have good intentions, but trust yourself...if you have concerns about him you would know better than anyone!

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He's working with Careerlink &  hopefully starting a GED program soon. He's had a rough start in life and the last few years I think I've really been the motivation to getting it together for him, we are young after all

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