I found out I was pregnant on the September 6th and I had a IUD but we got so excited. We weren't planning it but it happened and it's rare to get pregnant with IUD. We're both in the part of our lives where we're ready and financially stable to have a child. But a week later I was bleeding and cramping and went straight to the ER where they told me that my IUD tore while expelling due the pregnancy and it was possible it ectopic but to soon to tell and had to follow up. Many follow ups later, I get the tragic news that it's ectopic. They show me the heartbeat and then they tell me that I can't keep the baby, that it was my life I had to think about because if I tried to keep the pregnancy it would kill me when it ruptured or I'd lose my ability to have children ever. So now I have to go in on Friday 23rd to "have it evacuated" and do I still feel him/her in me, and I can't bear the thought of losing this. I haven't lost my pregnancy yet and I already can't find any way to cope. Any advice? Please.