Is anyone here not married or in a relationship with the father of their child? How did you handle it? Cause when I became pregnant with my first child, I found out he was in a relationship and wanted me to get an abortion to save the relationship he was in. I was so hurt and thought how could I have aloud this to happen to me. I couldn't enjoy my pregnancy because I knew he was having trouble accepting the fact I was having his first child. His ex would go on facebook and bash me. But as time went on the drama died down and it seem we were getting along fine. But it didn't change how he felt about me. The disrespect would keep coming at times, him calling me a bitch and a whore. And when I was 8 months pregnant we even got into a physical altercation. I became angry and hated being the mother of his child. I felt used and taken advantage of because I would try so hard to get him to see I was a good woman. My heart felt lifeless at times. But since I've had my daughter the feelings started to come back for him. Watching those two together just made me so happy. We started to get along great like the way we did when we first met. I began to think we actually had a real chance to be together and have a family. And then we had sex. The thought of being pregnant again is lingering in the back of my mind. I feel so stupid for going there with him. Because he recently let me know he could never be with me and that I'm insecure. 😳 what's wrong with me? I feel so hurt, and if I get pregnant again I'm afraid i will go through the same things I did with my first pregnancy. 😢 I just need some words of wisdom ladies.