OK recently my best friend and I got into a HUGE argument about pregnancy! Recently she just announced that she's 12 weeks pregnant (I knew for a while but she's just announced it to her family and friends) and I'm happy for her. My husband and I recently got married on September 18 and we made plans for a while now to start trying for a baby right after we got married. Everyone is aware of this and knows this was our plan, even both of our families knew and are excited for us!

Anyway, I brought up feeling nauseas only in the morning and at night along with headaches and I don't know if it's a flu or if I am possibly pregnant and she writes to me that I'm not pregnant and that I shouldn't get pregnant right now. I told her yeah we want to be pregnant and start a family and then she has the nerve to say "NO YOU'RE GOING TO STEAL MY SPOTLIGHT AND MY TIME OF PREGNANCY! You can't get pregnant while I am!" Which to me sounds ludacris! I don't want her attention or spotlight and I told her she is being selfish by telling me when I should have a baby and to put our plans on hold for a year until she has her baby! I told her way before that it would be cool if we were both pregnant at the same time so out kids can grow up together and be best friends. Even her fiance said the same thing to me and I agree!

So we got into this HUGE HUGE argument over me having a baby and she actually thinks I'm gonna take all her attention and she won't be able to encounter pregnancy! She said I'm a bad friend and very ignorant for even trying for a baby because she's pregnant and hers wasn't even planned and she knew (even though she claims she didn't know) that we were trying right after I got married. She got pregnant before my wedding and I'm sorry that her unplanned pregnancy was before my wedding and around the time we are planning but she says I'm not allowed right now and that I'm a bad friend.

Am i wrong for following our plans to have a baby or am I being ignorant and selfish? She's just turned this whole thing into something bigger than it should be. Aren't best friends supposed to be happy for each other when they are pregnant? Whether it be at the same time or different times? I know of 4 other people who were pregnant along side their best friend and they said it was an amazing experience. But I can't have that. I just have a selfish friend who wants me to put my life on hold for her just so she can enjoy her pregnancy! It makes me so mad. I even deleted her on facebook because it was to stressful and upsetting that she is acting this way. So ladies, am I wrong for not putting my life and plans on hold just so she can bask in her pregnancy even though I've wanted kids for so long and now our plans can finally happen and she's being rude about it? We are continuing to try since the next 3 days are my high fertile windows and my ovulation day and I don't want to miss my possible chance? Please give me your feedback. Thanks!!