Shower Date Troubles...what should I do?

Question

I'm due with my first and possibly only child on Valentine's Day. I'm 35yrs old and I have tried very hard for this child... Including IVF that failed. My sister and my best friend are planning my shower which I'm so happy excited about. However, my sister called me this weekend to tell me that they had decided on the date for the shower... December 27th😿.  Both my sister and best friend will need to travel back to our hometown to host a shower for me, which is where I live as well as about half of our family. They picked this day because it would be convenient for them to come home for Christmas and knock out my shower in the same weekend. I'm struggling because I feel like it is really inconsiderate to ask people to attend a baby shower two days after Christmas, and many of my husbands family and my close friends who don't live here would have to travel several hours to attend. Not to mention the fact that everyone is broke after Christmas and some will still be out of town on their holiday vacations. When they started planning the shower the only request I made was that we tried to avoid the holidays. Now I don't know what to do... I'd like to ask them to reconsider the date but I don't want to seem ungrateful or bossy. And changing the date would require my sister and bf to travel on another weekend.  What would you do?

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I would ask them to change it. It's your shower and you need to feel comfortable. It's great that they volunteered to put on your baby shower for you, but that doesn't mean they get to make all the decisions. If there are that many people who are going to need to travel to be there I doubt they will want to travel after the craziness of Christmas. I am due Feb 22 and I'm having my baby shower dec 13.

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I'm due February 26 and I'm having my shower at 25 weeks , November 14. It may be early but around the holidays it's very hard to get people to travel and spend money because all the Christmas shopping drains them out! That way I won't be too big and uncomfortable and still get a good turn out for my baby shower:)

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I had the hardest time finding a shower date! You should definitely change your date because so many people will not be able to come due to Christmas! Plus they will all have spent all of their money on Christmas! I am doing mine early November which seems early but it won't conflict with any holidays and I won't be 9 months pregnant. However, it's great that you have two amazing women that want to throw you a shower so as long as your core friends are there does it really matter the date?

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To be honest, having it in December makes sense to me. I'm inviting people that I would normally give a gift to and vise versa. If I give them a gift it's bc I see them after Christmas! However I agree that if you're not comfortable with the date you can ask to switch it. 😁

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I'd ask them to change it as you've clearly stated b4 not to have it near a holiday.  They totally don't get that.

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Can you have two showers? That way the ones who can't make it to that one due to the holidays can come? Or maybe have a shower and then a sip and see? My friends are throwing me a sip and see since this is my third and I feel weird about having a shower

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Can you see if they can do it MLK weekend in January?  It's a day weekend,  so that night be easier on people who have to travel.  I don't think it could hurt to bring up your concerns.

Shower Date Troubles...what should I do?

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