Do you ever get over cheating?

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When we were engaged my husband had an inappropriate relationship with one of his best female friends. They never did anything physical, that I know of. He said he was nervous about getting married..blah blah blah. Anyway, he has been faithful and great since then. Most of the time I am fine and do not think about the cheating. Some times it gets to me SO BAD I can barely function throughout the day. We have talked about it several times and I don't really know what else he can say to make me feel better. I just cannot get over it. It's been 3 years. It eats at me. We have 2 children and are very happy besides this issue. I do not worry about him cheating now, we are very different people...I just don't know what to do. We cannot afford counseling and I really don't know what to do. Those of you that have been cheated on, do you ever get over it? How?!

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I don't think someone can fully just forget about it. Maybe worked through it but never fully not forget.

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Girl it hurt now but when you sit down and understand your worth you would be happy it ended! Don't stay with a cheater do better !

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To me that's a forgive but never forget situation.  If you find the answer to forgetting let me know

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It depends on you. If you forgive him then you have to get over it.  It's not fair to your kids, your husband or yourself to hold onto it.  You chose to forgive him, let it go.  His job is to make you feel loved and secure in your relationship.  You won't be able to move on unless you let it go.  Plus,  YOU are allowing this girl into your marriage 3 yrs later by still talking about her.

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Inwas cheated on by my very forst boyfriend. We were together.m a year and a half in high school. We had so
Much in common and so much chemistry together that i honestly thought we would be high school sweethearts.
Almost a year and a half into our relationship he started talking about this girl that he had mutual friends with and how cool she was and that i should meet her. I thought it was weird. We broke up about 2 months later and a week or ao after hw was with that girl!!!! Now what else am i supposed to think? He cheated. I have no doubts. Its been probably 6 years since then and im and amazingly happy with my boyfriend now and our son. But because of what happes i have moments where im Insecure and i wonder and over react. I have no reason to think that wat, but it happened once and i dont want it to happen again. 
I havent gotten over it yet, but that doesnt mean you wont. If it bothering you so much, have you thought about therapy? Or even having a serious serious discussion with him? I hope things work out. ❤️

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If you really want the marriage to work you need to figure out how to afford counseling because that seems like the only logical explanation. Just remember you are trying to make your marriage work and it will take anything if you're truly in love.

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Sometimes churches offer free counseling

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I'm going through the same issues in my marriage I'm in the process of going to seeing a therapist.. This is messing up my marriage

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If you really want to get over it you need to do couples therapy so you can talk about it together and work it out. Otherwise it's going to eat away at you and you'll start to resent and hate him.

Do you ever get over cheating?

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