Should I Stay?

Question

I got married last year and my anniversary is coming up. We fight a lot. I have depression and no matter what happens if I get mad or sad he blames it on that. As if he's never done anything wrong. I love him but he says a lot of hurtful things and I don't know how to deal with that. I've never been known to keep my mouth shut if someone gets me angry and I don't think he likes that. We argue every time I try to call him out on something that he's said and calls me disrespectful as if I cursed at him or something. Idk maybe I'm afraid of being alone or maybe I'm overreacting? I'm tired though. My emotions can't take much more.

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It sounds like counseling might be your best bet here. It's so easy in our society to decide if you don't like something to just give up. Marriage is work, every day. It's not always cookies and rainbows. It takes commitment, and if you loved that man enough a year ago to want to spend the rest of your life with him, why give up now? People always say the first year of marriage is the hardest, because you're still learning how to be someone's wife, just as he's learning how to be someone's husband.

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Why did you marry him with these problems? I think you need to stay. Marriage is more than a piece of paper. It's more than just a title. You're a team, you're a legal couple. It needs to be taken seriously. Tell him your concerns and get marriage counseling. It shouldn't be as easy as "stay or leave".  He's your husband, but your hookup.

Take the next 6-12 months and focus on WHY you got married in the first place.

Purchase Love Language and read it together. 
Be proactive. Don't waste a good thing.

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If you're not happy you shouldn't stay. Married or not, happiness comes first and you deserve it!

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I totally used to be in your shoes, it's gets better if you keep trying to make it so. Don't give up! The uphill battle makes the prize so much more valuable!!!

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Did I write this?! Hahaha. My first year of marriage was just like that. We fought he blamed my anxiety and depression and didn't care about my problems or what I thought the problems were. After our first year I spent 2 weeks away and let us both take time for ourself. Things were better when I came back. I made him realize that the problems weren't always related to my medical issues. He went to a doctors appointment with me and the doctor told and explained to him and that helped a lot as well. If you still love him don't give up just yet! Things could get better or they could get worse. Nobody knows the future. We've been married 2 years and now and are ttc #1. Things are the best they could be right now and I am so glad I stayed. Just explore all of your options before you leave. One day you might regret leaving.

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If he doesn't care about how you feel you don't need to stay

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After a little  over a year I  left my marriage.  I was treated  the same way it didn't  get better. I was much better for it and a lot happier.  Sorry your going  through  this.  Keeping  you in my thoughts.

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I seriously believe that my best friend wrote this. She is going through the same thing. She has a lot of health issues, but her husband is the same as yours. She's been married a little over a year and dealing with the same issues from him. I say leave. You shouldn't have to be put through that. Everything about this post is my best friend.

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You  are  the only  one who knows  you relationship , and while it's good to get advice  once in a while  you need to really  search  within  you heart for the answers .  I have  been  through  a  12 year  amazing  marriage  and  out of the blue  he cheated on me, it was horrible  and couldn't  ever get back what  we had. The only advice  I can offer  from my  experience  is try try and try some more  don't give up!!! Good  luck and I hope everything  works  itself  out☺

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It's all about total submission and patience. Try this and see how it will work for you. I will encourage you to read the bible Ephesians 5:22-33. In marriage you need to give and take. It's not an easy institution you learn about each other every day. My dear stay in your marriage and enjoy the labour of love.God bless your Union.

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