So frustrated 😣

That's BS. My boyfriend's mom is like this, but he realizes it and has sided with me. His dad is always asking him for cash and help too. But they never help us out and all they do is cause is grief. All these answers saying "it's your family too" and that you shouldn't have any say are ridiculous. They obviously don't know what it's like to have a man with bossy parents.  As my boyfriend put it the other day, "I don't want to spend the rest of my life with my parents. I want to spend it with you." He wants to please me first. And that's how it should be. S/O first, family second. Everyone has this idea in their heads that you can't turn your back on blood, but if they're negatively affecting your life, then you have every damn right to cut them out. Let him know that. Maybe he is afraid to stand up to them. It's not a respect thing. He doesn't have to respect them if they don't respect him. He's a grown man with his own life now. He shouldn't have to take care of them.

I'm in the same boat. We haven't been together as long. But my in laws expect my husband to drop everything at a moments notice and be there for them. Usually it's stupid stuff too

i feel you my mans mom does the same shit tells him what to do i cant stand her she came and visited but left cause she knows i dont like her 

It's his family, I don't think his parents are your problem. He obviously wants to do it. Or he wouldn't do it. Let it go. And just be happy.

That's tough. The only advise i have...if u are married, then his family is your family too. So talk to them about it. Tell them that it frustrates you when they push things on your husband all the time and they need to lessen the load they give him so he can focus on your needs....Other than that, there's not much else u can do. Remember they love him as much as u do. So both u and his parents have to sacrifice yourselves to let the other have time with him.