Truth about babies and relationships ..?👶👪

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So my husband and I have heard many different opinions and views on this from friends / family / strangers. We've heard that having children puts a ton of stress on your relationship for YEARS ..

We have heard that it's the best thing ever, but you're just more tired than you used to be...

I feel like a lot of people make it into a daunting situation that I am partially dreading , out of being so nervous about it. Not because I don't want to be a mother.

How would you describe how it changed your life ? Good and bad . Thank you :)

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Yes things do change but I would say for the better. We do things now with our baby girl in mind. Yes you get tired... But to me its all worth it if you want to be a parent

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Having children brought us closer together. It made us have an even stronger bond. I luckily haven't experienced most of the things that some couples complain about like being to tired to spend time togerher, or it being hard to find time for intimacy. I think that the most important thing is communication. It's also important, if possible, for you to have date nights.

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It changed us for the better. We quit smoking, a little less partying. Everything we do, we do for our son. I'll admit, it gets a little tiring but we still have the energy for him. I always tell people that having kids will change their perspective on life, it isn't true for everyone but it's true for me. We haven't been stressed out YET, that is why we're only sticking with one before we have another. Meaning, we finish school, keep working, keep saving, better our future before we bring in another life. 😘

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For my situation personally having a child has been very difficult. I am so Thankful for our daughter and love her more than anything, but that doesn't make it any easier. My husband and I were together for 10 years before we decided to have a child. I feel having 10 years to do what we want when we wanted really spoiled us and that part of our world was flipped upside down when we had a baby. The older our daughter gets the easier it gets too. I always said I was fine never having kids and didn't really want any, but after having one I know they are worth every moment no matter how stressful or amazing that moment may be.

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Good. You share a deeper connection, a love unlike anything other for the child you created together. You appreciate each other more when you see the good parenting and qualities and it is so touching. Bad. Expecially at the beginning you are both exausted. Mom is healing, hormonal, stressed (chapped nips hehe) . Dad is adjusting and tired from work and baby. There can be moments when arguments happen. The world has shifted and all of the sudden you aren't the most important people in each other's worlds. That precious baby is. It's just a time of adjustment. It gets better and as long as you love each other, make time for each other and be understanding it get better and deepens your love. It's hard but worth every bit.

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It's a give and take. Sometimes the kids strained our relationship, sometimes they brought us closer. Plus there is nothing better than waking up in the same bed with your babies snuggled between the two of you.

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It really just depends on the people.  Having children was part of what ended my relationship with my ex husband.  Having kids strained the relationship too much because we wanted different lifestyles and we stopped appreciating each other.  But with my current so, having kids strengthened our relationship.

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It depends on your relationship. Me and my SO are very patient laid back people. For us it made us closer because we had to work together with common goals and it gave us a whole new way to appreciate each other. We are also very sexual so we didn't have trouble making time for us still, no matter what. Some couples have lower stress thresholds or are uptight and have trouble coping. If your SO is a calming presence for you and you are very supportive of each other and cooperate well... You will be okay.

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Don't worry about the little things, honey. I can't possibly tell you how it will affect you guys, no one can. They can only express their own experiences. Try not to think about the negative side of it all. It's how you make it and how you look at it all. It's all worth it if you have a positive attitude. The tiredness will be worth it in the end and even in the beginning. Do not let other people's comments be your deciding factor. You do it for you two and you two alone. I hope this helps. Have a good night.

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When I had my first I got back with his sperm donor but left after a month he just wasn't helping with nothing I tried my bet to make it work but I gave up I'm now with my youngest father it hard to get alone time we wait until the kids are asleep that our alone time together it is hard but it worth it

Truth about babies and relationships ..?👶👪

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