Anxiety and nightmares?

Question

I don't know where exactly to post this but over the last couple over months I've had 4 nightmares in which I was being attacked /raped by a guy. (I have never actually been raped) I have however had a couple of sexual encounters in which I felt somewhat violated. Both times I was almost black out drunk , it was with 2 separate guys. Basically one I barely remember the encounter and the other we had sex and then he tried again and I mumbled no but he didn't listen. I feel like I'm  just oveerreacting it in my mind because I was friendly/ flirty with both guys during the nights before the sex happened. I've just regretted it and had this really uneasy feeling for awhile like I was violated or pressured to just  let it happen. I dont know if I'm overeating or what but I've felt really bad the last couple dsys😣  Am I just being stupid about it now?

Answer

If you felt violating and pressured during those 2 encounters then it seems like they were actually not consensual. You don't have to be kicking and screaming "no!"

If you were incapacitated enough to be blacking out, you were not given the chance to give real consent and that the man did not properly seek it from you. Please don't blame yourself for what you should or shouldn't have done; the blame for the encounter is on that man's choice to pursue sex when he should not have done that.

I'm sorry you went through these experiences, you didn't deserve to be treated that way and it makes sense that they could cause you anxiety and nightmares. Please know you are not alone and there is support out there if you need it.

Answer

And you are not overreacting at all, your feelings are all perfectly legitimate and justified <3

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