Confusingly in like and need advice

I'm 16, and I've had only one boyfriend in my life. I lost my virginty  to him at 14. We've been broken up for 2 years and I've only really has feelings for one guy for about 2 months while being single. I have a lot of meaningless sex, and I find myself mature enough to handle that without gaining feelings. As of about 3 weeks ago, I started talking to this senior and I've really started to like him, a lot. The thing that's driving me crazy though, is, one- we never have a conversation unless I start it. (He always says he's busy.) two- we've only got to know each other on a humorous, joking around, friendly level. He's asked to come over to his house and hang out, and I let him know we wouldn't have sex, I just figured if Idon't have sex with him, maybe he'd like me. And he was totally fine with it, not in a typical boy fine with it but genuinely fine with it. He said all he wanted to do was cuddle and hang out and he respects women, blah blah blah. But things come up and we both get too busy to hang out. Another thing is, is that he asked of me to keep things on the down low if we were to hang out. And I get that guys are like that, but I hate it. So, I guess I need advice because it seems like I'mputting effort into something that he's not! So,would i have a higher chance of dating him if I weren't to bang him and try to get to know him? Or should I kinda blow this off cause he seems so uninterested in wanting to get to know me?