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Well my husband works a lot and isnt that often at home anymore and what annoys me is that he has to work with a partner which turned out to be his ex and I mean I know theyre just working but it's still annoying like people always ask him or her if theyre together and she always takes selfies with him and all and posts them online- our baby is 5 weeks old now and when I first held her I felt like I'm not doing the right thing with him. I'm staying at my best friends place now ever since our daughter was born and I know it hurts my husband and all but I honestly cannot change the situation I just feel like I can't do it with him he comes to see her everyday and says its unfair of me but I just cant do it with him I love him to death and I know he loves me too but somehow his work irritates me I cant really tell you what he does exactly but I just dont want to see his fucking ex girlfriend taking pictures with him/of him in my house. I dont know if I'm overreacting everything is just so hard for me right now my grandmother and cousin passed away during my pregnancy and I feel like all of this is too much for me right now I want my daugher to be in a safe place but am I doing it right? 
I love him so much I really dont wanna leave him just like that but I cant do it with him like that and I dont want him to leave his job either because its his dream and he's been working for it ever since we were children.

I've posted this on another group too because I really need help I dont know what to do anymore... :((((

Oh and I did talk to her about it but the picture thing is like a part of their job I dont know how to describe it but they just need to be online and promote each other/their job like that

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Considering the lack of details you are giving you (for security purposes) versus what they tell u, I think u should give it a fair chance. Think about what he does for a job and if this is necessary. I was in a similar situation. My SO would be gone for weeks and I didn't know anything. I wasn't allowed the know anything. I know the feeling but I think you should put a little bit more trust into it. A happy marriage can defeat anything, even an ex. If you show her u r both happy and growing strong, she will back off, that is she has "evil" thoughts. Right now, by u staying away, u r practically pushing him into her arms. Fight for your man. Let him prove u what u mean to him. Ef the pictures. It's all about u, him and the baby. U can do this!!!!

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Talk to a professional and get some help. Sounds like you could be experiencing some post-partum depression.

When it comes to his ex, have you asked her not to take pictures with him? Or asked him not to take pictures with her? If either has said no, file a complaint with their boss explaining how you feel she's being unprofessional with her job and that she needs to not be taking pictures while working. Unless it's part of their job, then I don't really know what to tell you.

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This sounds horrible! I wouldn't be able to put up with this.. Assuming she was his ex before you? Were they working together when you got together? You need to speak to him and decide what you want to do, explain your feelings to him.. To be honest if he really loves you he should choose you over his job any day.. If it is his job that is tearing you apart as a family, love should come before work. Good luck

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Personally I don't think you are overreacting!! I would be fuming and couldn't deal with this situation either!! Fair enough him working with his ex is something that is hard to change but for her to be posting photos is a little personal and goes beyond professional boundaries!! I know it would be hard for him to change his job but I would definitely ask him to anyway!! Your baby is your priority and should be his too and if he wants to keep you as a family unit he will do whatever he can!! Try keep strong if you allow it to carry on your only going to be miserable which isn't what your baby needs, your baby wants a happy mummy :) best of luck x

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