Newly wed

So i have been married for 4 months with the man of my life whom i've dated for 6 years. The past 6 years have been amazing but we're having some issues.. i have a complicated relationship with my mother. I am a big pushover while my mother is very demanding. I am careless and she is sensitive. You get it, we're complete opposites. The thing is, we have found a way to get along but my husband does not agree with it. I know i cant blame him because when she is mad at me she is also disrespectful to him. Not only that but she has treated me pretty bad in the past to the point of psychologically affecting me. He wants me to keep away from her and the rest of my family since they are always on her side and i know he just wants the best for me but they ARE my family. I dont think i can stay away. We have been arguing about this for some time. New years eve and day was the worst one ive ever had because we kept on arguing whose family to spend it with. Everything that bothered us was brought up in our argument. I ended up crying myself to sleep and sleeping the whole day after so i wouldnt have to see him. This is seriously affecting us and i dont know what to do. We have been avoiding the subject since jan 1st but i know it will come up again in the near future. i just need some friendly advice please... thank you.