Sensitive clit (i don't know which room to put this in)

At first I thought it was normal but then I watched some "videos" to see if it was, and all the girls on them are so rough!! I was cringing!!! And a couple of the topics on here make me think that I'm a whole lot more sensitive then others. I can't touch my clit directly, for anything, even very gently. The slightest touch hurts. Cleaning hurts to all hell and I can't "touch myself" because that hurts too. I'm more worried about my hygiene then anything else at the moment, because I'm not planning on having sex any time soon, that being said I would like to enjoy myself when I do decide to have sex. Is there anyway to make it less sensitive? Or a cleaning technique that'll hurt less? Or should I book an appointment to see a doctor? I don't know what to do...