Pregnant and obese

Okay so I'm 5 foot 3 and I weight about 230lbs last time I checked. I must say that I don't look like I weigh that much although I clearly am chunky. I was overweight when I had my child almost 2 years ago but I'm so much worse now.
Is anyone else here obese and pregnant?
My bmi is around 40 and I'm terrified of what they'll say at he hospital. Also, I don't have an appointment for another almost 2 weeks I'm worried that I'll be almost 9 weeks pregnant then so will weight even more.
Can anyone relate? Please no nasty comments!