Sorry for the length of this post, I would love you to tell me am I being unreasonable...

Today I lost my darling Bean. I'd had spotting for a few days(no cramping) had emergency US to see was all OK, saw the doctor this morning, all seemed good, got home and then started the gushing, clots and pain. My husband was at work when this started. I called him, told him the situation, he said he would come to the hospital after work.

The doctors released me after passing a lot of clots, and the bleeding eased, with many cautions and things to look for. Meanwhile, hubby still wasn't at the hospital(he'd finished work 2 hours before and we live 15 mins from the hospital) fortunately 1 friend was able to watch our 3 yr old, and another friend was able to be with me at the hospital. When I phoned hubby to say I was headed home, he didn't hear me as he was busy mowing the lawn. I got even more upset, as he hadn't even called to check on our 3 yr old. When hubby turned around and called me arrogant for not considering his feelings. I know he is grieving too, but he had shown no interest in the pregnancy, or concern when I was spotting. Am I arrogant to be upset that he didn't come to the hospital, show concern for how I was or check on his son?

I would appreciate your view, but please no harsh answers. I am seriously struggling here!