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So my husband's family is throwing us a baby shower. No problem there, that's actually super nice. I love his family, too. The problem is that his aunt told this baby photographer to send me a friend request. I don't accept requests from people I don't know, but I am also a photographer. They're all this kind of tight-knit southern country folk and it's a 2-hour drive to even get there. So 
1. I feel strongly about wanting to take my own child's photos. 
2. If I wanted family photos, my sister is also a photographer. They know this.
3. Why would I drive 2 hours with an infant for photos that I can take for free in our own home? 
4. If I say no, I'll offend EVERYONE. 
I just don't understand where her logic even came from. I don't know how to say no without it being awkward or hurting someone's feelings. And I don't just want to say yes because that's potential for a sizeable monetary commitment that I don't want or need on top of baby expenses. I don't like that she told some random person that is accept their friend request, either. I know that's how a lot of people use Facebook, but personally if I don't know you and talk to you, you're not on my friends list. I have zero problems with drama and Facebook awkwardness that way and that's how I like it. I like sharing pictures and stories and links with people I know. I don't want strangers all up in my private life and I don't want to have to double check settings with every post. UGH!!!! Help, please?

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I would tell her that you're not comfortable with accepting a request from someone you don't know and that it's a safety concern; you don't want your family's private moments plastered all over the internet by strangers. Plus traveling with a newborn sucks. Also I would say that you had already made arrangements with your sister to take pictures. If his Aunt doesn't like it, she'll just have to deal with it; it's your baby not hers.

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It's your child. You and your sister are photographers. You don't have to say yes to someone else taking photos just because you're afraid to offend people. The aunt should have known better. I am in a situation where I offended my husbands family but so effin ehat? It's our child not theirs.

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Reject the friend request and move on.  If the aunt brings it up, say, "oh my, I only accept friend requests from people I know.  Thanks so much for thinking of me, but for pictures I'll be having my sister do them.  Thanks, though.  I appreciate the thought."  If she gets offended, that's her problem.  People can't make your decisions for you, and it's not offensive for you to make your own choice in photographer.

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I'm the same way with Facebook. Maybe the aunt was just thinking you will want family pictures with your newborn which the other photographer could take?

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I don't accept requests from anyone I'm not true friends with or related to so I understand completely. Tell them thank you very much but you already have a photographer.

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I just say thank you for the suggestion but you already had someone else/something else in mind....

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