Painful intercourse...PLEASE help!

My husband and I waited till our wedding night. To my dismay our wedding night wasn't all I dreamed of. Don't get me wrong, it was wonderful to spend the night with my new husband for the first time! But I cried most of the night from all the emotions of the day. On the honeymoon and for a month after we still couldn't have intercourse cause it was too painful. Finally, who knows why, I was able to do it. But ONLY in one position while being fingered. And only for a very short time. Nevertheless I was still so happy and it was an amazing experience. About two months go by and now we're here again were I can't do it! It burns and is excruciating pain. I love my husband dearly, he's so patient with me and tries to help as best he can but it just hurts too much for me. I want to be able to have intercourse freely with no pain and actually enjoy intimacy. 
I've heard of having vaginismus and that may be it but I definitely do NOT want to go to a doctor and have those tests done. 
So sorry this is pretty detailed but I'm so depressed over it and beg for any help from anyone!