I'm 36+5 weeks pregnant with our second child. A few days ago my husband invited his friend to stay with us for an extended period of time to get his life on track. My husband didn't tell me about it until after he had bought a ticket and his friend was on his way. This really upset me, because we always talk about big decision like this. He said he didn't think I would mind, but yet he asked his sister for advice and she told him not to do anything without talking to me first Ashdown that if it was her she wouldn't let the friend stay. Yet he still went ahead and did this. I'm upset for several reasons, we haven't interacted worth this person for several years because he has a drug addiction to meth, has been in and out of jail several times, beat up one of his 'best friends' for drug money, and has repeatedly stolen from his parents and others. In addition, the friend told us he didn't have any money for food, clothes, etc so we bought him what he needed and my SO gave him a few dollars to get food while he was supposed to be out looking for a job. But when I came home later that day, the guys sitting in my living drunk and still drinking listening to music! I ended up staying in my room with my child until my husband got home.

My husband works 40-60 hours a week and often doesn't get home until 11 at night. Meaning that with maternity leave I would be alone with his friend all day with a new born and a toddler. I'm just not comfortable with that, especially since I breastfeed.

Don't get me wrong my husband has a huge heart and sees this guy as a brother since they grew up together. We've helped out family before by letting them stay with us to save up money etc. But to me this guy is a stranger and really unstable, I don't want him around my kids. I told my SO he needed to send him back home. I even found a treatment place where he lives that will accept him. For free! But suprise, suprise, this friend doesn't want to do any type of rehab and doesn't want to go back. I'm just so frustrated and stressed out about the whole situation. And to make it worse my husband doesn't understand why I have an issue with it. Am I over reacting? Would anyone else be willing to let someone in a similar situation stay around their children, live in their home given the circumstances?