When is it ok to have an adult meltdown/breakdown?

Question

Please bear with my rant of questions...

Is it ever ok to ask for help when you are just trying to be strong?  How do you not seem weak or striving for attention?
Is it ok to demand a break when you're a mother, a wife?
--When is it ok to slow down when all the world wants is for you to speed up?
Is it ok after your child (infant in age) has a brain tumor that requires hospitalization and multiple surgeries?
How about after your husband is diagnosed with leukemia?
What about when your other child is found to be on the autism spectrum?
When dealing with secondary infertility?--
The saying is "God only gives you what you can handle in life."
At what point are you able to say...fuck this!  I cannot handle anything else!  I am done being a warrior!  I am over being the strong one!  I did not ask for this!  I have focused on the positives for this long now, I've been optimistic!  Just let me crawl in a hole and hide!
Is it ok at a certain point to throw your hands in the air and not have everyone around you expect you to be ok for a while?  
Is it ok if I just check out of life for a period of time and let someone else take on my adult responsibilities??

Answer

It's always okay. My father passed away when I was 9. When I was 14 my mother got in a horrible accident. She wasn't able to walk for a few months due to a broken pelvis. I had to take care of her and it was hard because you're right I didn't sign up for this, I'm the kid. It was hard without my father because I had no clue what I was doing. I couldn't help but think "this shouldn't be my job." It was my freshman year in high school. And there's kids who have a hard enough time dealing with the emotions and stress of finding where you belong. She was constantly in pain. But I really didn't know how strong I was until I had to be. I had a few breakdowns but you're loved ones need you to be strong so they can be strong. For some of us life is a crazier roller coaster than others. It's okay to need others for support especially in your situation, no shame. We are only human. I wish the best to you and your family❤️

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My heart just broke for you reading this. Ill be praying for your strength tonight. God bless you darling.

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I have never experienced what you listed and have had some near breakdowns. I see a psychiatrist and therapist now, it has helped. It's never weak or anything negative to need and ask for help. Talk to your loved ones as well about needing some extra support, I'm sure they will be happy to give you some sort of break for yourself. If you don't talk about it chances are you will keep feeling worse.

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Lett Jesus take the when baby

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Every one has their own problems!  Thank you for the vent and thoughts!  I can't really go to my kids, an I feel my husband is off limits right now.  The rest of my family is out of state.  Guess I'm not ready to admit I need to talk to anyone else other than a but a bunch of people I've never met on a forum, which I am thankful for....I don't think an adult tantrum/breakdown/meltdown is ok for me yet.  Where are my big girl panties?  Time to go find them!

When is it ok to have an adult meltdown/breakdown?

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