What do use think of this???

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So id wrote before how I told my baby's daddy about her being due in 5 weeks etc and that I'm sorry I didn't tell him up until now. To not get a response, understandable. So last night I text to see how he was and this morning he replied with "no I'm not ok, in shock, can you please send me that long message again as I didn't get reading it all last night and accidentally deleted it" I hadn't the nerve to resend the message and said to him can u please just ignore all of this and go get on with your life, now this is a mane it's a women he continuously says he doesn't love, continuously cheats on. And this is the response he sent me "I'd love to but I know it's going to bite me  in the ass at some stage... R u sure cause I was going to tell ash and everyone tonite cause I can't let her find out off some1 else,,, wouldn't be fair :-(" not once has he acknowledged the fact that I have lost all of my own family over this, to save his ass, asked me how I'm doing. Nothing. Is this not a scumbag right here???? To the highest degree

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I'm going to try to be as sensitive as possible. You dropped a bombshell on him. You had 8 months to tell him and from your other post you had decided to tell him now cause it wouldn't be fair to your "love child" as you referenced your daughter. Correct me if I'm wrong but he already had a family going on with another woman plus 2 kids and the two of you chose to sleep together anyways. I'm sorry but your no more of a victim than he is. You told him about the pregnancy last minute, he is in shock (understandably) and on top of that has to inform his lady about it. So now your back pedaling cause he didn't respond to your text fast enough and telling him to forget it. It doesn't work like that cause he still needs to confess to his lady what he's done cause more than likely somewhere in the future your going to change your mind again and want him involved or family members will tell her and it's going to get uglier. You seem to be forgetting you both betrayed HER. She is in the DARK. It's not fair for her not to know what kind of man she is with. 
This is going to have a domino effect. Negative and positive. It's not all about you and your daughter, there's a much bigger picture going on. There are several kids involved. Hopefully you and him grow from this, learn that actions have consequences and he needs to be just as accountable for his as you do for yours. He needs to come clean and you need to be prepared that what comes after won't be accepting you with open arms.  Just move forward and do right by your little girl. At the end of the day, he's still an ass.

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As long as he is not abusive or a druggie this is his baby. The fact that he cheated on you and does not want a relationship with you is beside the point. When you become a parent it is about what's best for the child. So, he is going to be your child's father and you need to focus on that. He cheated on you and does not want to be with you so you cannot expect him to really care all that much about what having this baby did to to your friends and family. Especially when you JUST  told him.

You have had your entire pregnancy to work through emotions, expectations and relationships. Somehow you expect dang near overnight for him to process the news, adjust to it and reflect on how hard it is for you as well...that is unfair.

Give him some time to work through this as well and a real opportunity to decide whether he intend to be involved in raising the baby or not.

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Scumbag for cheating, yes. Scumbag for how he's handling the situation with you, no. He seems to be the mature one in this. Why would you wait until the last month of your pregnancy to tell him and what makes you think he should respond any differently? It's not like you're late night texting to catch up on old times, you just hit him with some serious news involving a child, a lifelong commitment between the two of you and he obviously cares about the woman he's with if he's going to man up and be the one to deliver the news to her. Unlike what you did for him when you should have. Whether you think you had good intentions for not telling him sooner or whether you did it out of spite, it's selfish of you to withhold that type of information then spring it on him the way you did.

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I feel no sympathy for you . Women like you disgust me . You're just a side chick trying to climb up the latter .

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Stop trying to save someone who enjoyed making a baby with you. Let him pay child support and be apart of the child's life(if he wants too) that's his responsibility. It's also his responsibility to take care of his other family members.

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