Ladies, please stop WORRYING

It's hard not to worry but...

Never did that when I was pregnant with my daughter, two years later I download this app and I've lived the past 4 weeks since I found out in complete fear lol.

Thanks! You've totally cured me of my anxiety and various other forms of mental illness. If only someone had told me this when I was a child, it would have saved me the trouble of having anxiety and mental illness throughout my teens as well. You should write a self help book.My point is, some people can't just choose to turn it off. Those kinds of people already KNOW worrying doesn't help anything, but are powerless to stop without external help and other resources. A "good swift word" about "not worrying" is all they've ever heard over and over and over in their lives. It's a broken record. So while I do not speak for all women, only those that are sick of hearing it, thanks for being among the many millions that have tried make us see the light. Maybe YOU'RE the one that can make a dent through mental illness by just telling me to "not worry".PSI mean no disrespect with this post. I am just tired off people telling me to stop worrying as though it's some miracle cure.

Or: Stop telling people what to do!I'm so tired of seeing other people think that the way they choose to handle their pregnancy should be a mandate for everyone else to do the same. Do I worry as much as a lot of other people here? - No. But people are different. I'm protecting myself against the hurt of miscarriage in my own way, but some people do that by worrying. And some people will be comforted by knowing that they are not alone in their worry. In our society there's not much room for people's anxieties - they're so often seen as unfair burdens on other people, as if the burden on the person with anxiety doesn't count at all. Shouldn't this app be a place where you could vent those anxieties without being judged, and hopefully be comforted by other users who have gone through the same thing instead? I have never ever in my life been comforted by someone telling me not to worry - only been shut up. That shouldn't be happening to people here! If you want to be protected from other people's posts, simply just scroll past them. It's that easy!

I agree. I do suffer from depression and anxiety, and "not worrying" is much easier said than done. HOWEVER, the OP was CLEARY trying to be helpful and supportive not judgey. There's plenty of judgey bitches on this ap (commenters included), but I didn't take the OP that way at all. while parts of this ap and community are great, the constant talk of miscarriages, asking benign questions and getting met with judgement and hate, being told "well I had a missed miscarriage so you won't know if you don you'll just have a dead baby inside you for weeks" does NOT help someone who already is struggling. I've had some of the meanest, cruelest, most insensitive and self-absorbed people on this ap. Which is sad because we're supposed to be helping and uplifting each other through this time. Sharing our stories and experiences. That's not what's happening about half of the time. People acting like their word is God, people saying that "it was God's will" to those who have miscarriages, people feeling the need to add about having miscarriages to completely unrelated posts and scare everyone, people shaming others for what they can stomach...it's ridiculous. I e had multiple people tell me I should delete this ap because it's clearly making my anxiety worse. But then there are people who truly are helpful and care. Like I believe this OP was trying to be...so being mean to her for trying to be helpful makes you part of the problem with this ap...

Tough love...thank you!! I feel like you're talking to me. This actually made me feel better. Lol

Do you really think having a little rant at people and telling them what you think they should and shouldn't feel will affect how they actually feel?? That isn't how emotions work.

As someone who suffers from SEVERE anxiety, it's not easy to just not worry about things in a pregnancy or really anything in general. It's very hard to explain it to someone without anxiety. Someone with anxiety can't just turn off their brain to not worry about every possible outcome. This app is supposed to help us woman support each other whether it be thru pregnancy, infertility, loss or everyday life. It's not meant for others to be judged. 

Maybe if you had experienced a missed miscarriage and dnc at 14 weeks you would be a little worried and anxious with the next pregnancy as well. You have no right to tell someone how to feel you obviously have no idea what that's like or you would never be so blunt. If you don't want to see someone's worries stay out of the community section because this is the only place done people have to go with there questions and problems.

Some of us can't help but worry, so speak for yourself please. I've had two miscarriages so the worrying comes natural even when I tell myself there is nothing I can do and that everything will be fine. You telling us to stop, isn't going to make us stop or feel ok.