Over protective or crazy?

Question

My son isn't born yet, I'm only 21 weeks, but I've become what I call the devil mom. I can not stand the thought of sharing my child with anyone other than my husband. I want to keep him in my stomach forever. It's awful. But I'm sure it's normal. I'm so ready for him to be here I'm being so impatient.

Also, I'm having issues with my MIL and the baby. Let me start off by saying I am a very clean person. My house is always spotless, I have a touch of ocd. She is not. Their house is disgusting. I'm not kidding, they have 3 dogs and 2 cats that pee on the floor and they leave it. They don't clean. They don't do dishes. The house smell SO bad. It's awful. I have talked with my husband and told him I didn't feel comfortable with our baby being over there at all. Is it wrong of me to ask they come to my house if they wish to visit with the baby? Can you imagine how sick my child can get? Not to mention the fact that the dogs jump on any and everything. They (in laws) are already mad at me because I have informed them that I will not allow the baby to stay the night with anyone or go to anyone's house without me being with the baby. And I've been called "disrespectful" for not allowing anyone in the delivery room.

Sorry for the long post.

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You do whatever you feel is best! I am 37 weeks pregnant and feel I am the only person not excited to have their baby because I am being overly selfish and not wanting anyone else to touch or hold him. Just remember, you know what is best for your baby and if someone doesn't like it, they can kick rocks.

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If they have dog/cat urine and I'm assuming poop in and on their floors at home I can imagine the smell😷. It's not healthy for an adult to breath the cat urine in much less a baby who's immune system is trying to get strong. I personally wouldn't even wanna go over there being pregnant, I would talk to mt husband about it and be sensitive cause if that's his parents then he grew up in that sort of environment, but just let him know the doctor doesn't approve of you or the baby breathing in all that stuff. That way your blaming the doctor and your not the "bad guy". His family will never understand where you are coming from cause in their eyes that way of living is fine. I do not see that you are in thw wrong at all, I just think it's all in the way of how you deliver the message.

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Wow, stories like this make me realize how blessed I am to have such wonderful and respectful in-laws. I think everything you've stated is beyond reasonable. I don't plan to have my baby stay anywhere without me either and I would not let my child into a house like that, family or not. I would continue to be straightforward with how you feel about these things. You know what's best and nobody else has the right to make decisions like this except you and your partner.

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Ewww no! My kids would not go either! I'm feeling crazy like I don't even want visitors at the hospital and this is my third baby 😳

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I could of wrote this myself! I'm having my third though now and they know we won't be going there! As I refused right from the off with my first who's now 9 I must say I made my husband deal with it it's his family at the end of the day and it's not acceptable to live like that let alone have a baby in that environment

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You can't wrap your baby in cotton wool.. Your baby is going to get sick and it will build up his immune system you could walk past someone in the shops and he could get sick it's a part of life .. Maybe say for the first 6 weeks until he gets his needles I don't want to take him anywhere 
That's what I did I don't take my baby out until his 6 weeks needles there is so many diseases around .. But your gonna have to face her house sooner or later ... Just so short visits it's not fair that your baby can't go there cause your a clean freak.. Before you know it your child will be licking the floor

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There is probably a nicer way out there to let them know how you feel, you are the parent and you are allowed to make those decisions..
 But i would definitely keep the peace in the family, & im sure they would understand!

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