What should I do ?

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So I'm 17 and I haven't had sex since I lost my virginity almost 2 years ago since then my stress has been threw the roof. I know I want to have sex but here's the problem... when I lost my virginity it really wasn't done by my own free will and since then every time I come close to having sex agian I back out I'm tired of hiding. There's this new guy I'm talking to and I know he's frustrated with me should I tell him what happened to me or just force my self to have sex ? Help me.

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You shouldn't do either. If he can't be with you just for YOU than he isn't the one. Sex is wonderful, but to only have 2 options is not ok. You have sex when YOU'RE ready to. You tell your story when YOU'RE ready to!

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NEVER force yourself for another guy.
Talk to him. Tell him what you went through. And if he don't understand, then he's not worth the time.

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Never ever force yourself. But if you are close with the guy then just tell him and I'm sure he will understand and if he don't then dump his ass bc he don't deserve you. But when you are ready take it slow bc it will hurt since it has been so long make sure you are aroused really good and use lube. Also please use condoms and or birth control you can get both of those at your Local health department or planned parent hood for free.

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I don't think you should until you can move on from the past. My ex had done that to me and during sex I'd flip my lid. Until i seeked help to move forward i never could let that go. Don't EVER force yourself.

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Honey, I'm so sorry your first time wasn't your choice. I have that in common with you. What worked for me was being honest with all my sexual partners and taking things slowly. Also, therapy was really helpful if you haven't gone yet. I know you know this, but what happened was not your fault, and though you had something stolen from you, don't let them steal the rest of your sexual life. Sex can be beautiful and full of pleasure. Flashbacks are normal, be honest with yourself and your partner and go at your own pace.

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Don't make yourself do anything. That will make you feel terrible afterwards. My ex wasn't the best and would guilt me into doing things I wasn't comfortable with. I regret it so much and even 3 years later it makes me feel bad about myself. 
Never do anything you aren't comfortable with.
If you feel comfortable enough with him to tell him. Do so. If you feel any kind of hesitance don't.

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