A day off to spend time turned into a disaster

Turn to. Today I took off work to spend time with my SO since he generally works on the weekends when I am off. The day literally just started off bad. We've been TTC so we had sex this morning however it was uncomfortable and it hurt and I made a comment that it was hurting and he  finished quickly. He let me know that I made him feel bad for rushing him and that he kept going, I responded in a less than reasonable way. We eventually got over it and made up. 

We went to the store grabbed some drinks and went to spend the day at the pool. Everything was going amazing so I thought. It's literally 100 degrees so we cut the pool time short.  We get home eat lunch and just begin to chill. Not even 30 mins later he and I are arguing about literally nonsense. He's being extremely disrespectful and I am no angel either, this long pointless argument just escalates to me kicking him out, throwing his clothes and he shattering milk on the floor punching the wall,him calling the cops and he being arrested. 

I feel so horrible because he doesn't belong in jail. He didn't hit me . We both equally

Played a part in the argument . He recently moved out here to let me follow my career. He's in an area where he doesn't know anyone and has no where to go and I just feel so responsible and bad and alone. Like here I am laying in bed alone and trying to figure out where we went so wrong. He doesn't belong there and it's all my fault.