Let's get one thing straight. Termination isn't an adequate reason to call people trash or selfish. I know some pro-lifers love to spread misinformation and blatant lies in their quest to "save the babies". Babies btw that few ever want to raise themselves, but would rather just push more rediculious notions such as "If you're old enough to have sex you're old enough to raise a child" or "They'll find a home somewhere".

I feel like I've seen it all. Billboards on public highways that say a heartbeat translates to life and that heartbeat starts 3 days after conception. Or my personal favorite, using animal fetuses to pose as human to make a point about "How human-like they are. Look at those little fingers! This is totally deserves life". Can you see the many problems with that last one? Besides just where they obtained that cat/dog fetus. It's probably because they can't tell the difference, still, personal fav.

Anyway, so this all makes the act of trying to spead that bs on my forehead with a butter knife a tad annoying in my opinion. Telling a table of people that you think women are filth if they remove their fetus is very VERY rude and probably just a little ignorant on your part 😊🤗

Especially when you only hang out with these people a few hours a week and know little about them. See, when you use demeaning terms like "trash" that's called insulting someone, even if it is directed at a group and not at someone personally. Considering a 5 year old child could have had the sense to choose better terminology around what is essentially strangers, it seems to me that if you do this you are indeed trying to start something. Maybe not a heated debate or argument, maybe you really thought everyone would agree with your hateful opinion and you might make a friend today. Or maybe your parents failed to teach you to be considerate? Who knows! I don't don't, because *I don't know you well*.

If you *must* make your point be heard (God forbid your head explode), make sure it's sound. Don't use something like "Women who have abortions don't take responsibilities for their actions", because that's the exact opposite of they're doing. Your point that you're trying to make here is really that you don't think people can ever be born of mistake or that "every child is a gift". You know this isn't true because you're an adult of at least moderate intelligence or above, yeah? You've been around long enough and had the internet long enough to know that some people don't always want a child either right now or ever for a vast menagerie of reasons. Don't use "That baby didn't ask to be conceived" then expect others to not question that fact that they didn't ask to be born into this dark world laced with misery and fear either. It's a two way street dear, and that's just speaking for the world in general too, not disadvantages that may come with it like poverty, abuse or disease.

I certainly was considering those things when I terminated. I thought long and hard on it actually. Having suffered two miscarriages before I wondered if that would be my last chance at a family. But then I looked about me and saw the light in my dark room full of grime and chittering cockroaches. I looked at my pictures of my adopted nephews, black and blue from their new new mom and remembered that DHS didn't care because "A rough home is better than no home". I looked in the livingroom at my MIL slumped over asleep in her chair, food on the floor in front of her and litterbox turning to cement next to her. Was she sleeping because of exhaustion or another aneurysm? Was that more food on that angels shirt or more vomit from the inability to digest from so much surgical scarring? I heard inhalation of dust buster in my SILs room while she screams in either delight or anger. I smelled at the rotten food in the kitchen and the dog shit outside the back door and thought about our empty wallets, stomachs and gas tank.

Your right, no child asks for that. No one asks for anything in the world when they are conceived because they aren't sentient yet, let alone speaking. They don't choose to be born, but they also don't choose not to be. They also don't choose to be born into privilege, but also not into severe disadvantage. They don't anything, **YOU** choose it all for them.

Funny how that works.

No one knows your situation, no one has the right to push you one way or the other. You know what's best better than anyone else for your reproductive life and spawn, and if anyone shames you for your choices then you just need better people in your life. Life is hard and we're all just trying to survive. Your body is not my choice and thus doth not need my opinion. You, a sentient being living independent in the now, should do what you need to do to progress in the direction you desire.

So suck my lady dick, Sandra 😄