Feeling really aggravated with my hubby...

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We had committed to attending a very close friends moms 90th birthday party today. The party is two hours away, he had forgotten his Rec leagues kickball tournament was today so he has decided to go to the tournament and make me go on my own to the birthday. I'm really hurt by this. I told him I believe he's making the wrong decision, there will be other tournaments, it's a year round league and our friends have done so much for us. Plus how is it going to sound when I explain that my husband let his 34 week pregnant wife drive 2 hours away on her own while he plays kickball and gets drunk at the after party? I won't be offended if you tell me I'm being ridiculous... Opinions please! 
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Sh

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Tell them that! Why the hell would he want you driving pregnant a few more weeks close to delivering your guys baby on top of that alone I'd be pissed. 

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Ashley • May 7, 2016
I agree 100% how ever most men don't like when a woman uses the "excuse" that she's pregnant to guilt trip him into doing or not doing something. I feel if you say "who would you let your pregnant wife/girlfriend" then it might cause him to do the opposite of what you want.

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Shauntazia • May 7, 2016
My husband and I make time for each other and stuff with friends regardless of us having another baby there's a time and place for anything

Je

Je • May 7, 2016
I think he is trying to squeeze in all his guy time now because he plans to be super dad. But talk to him and remind him that life doesn't end when your baby comes.

Ma

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Sounds like he made plans for kickball before the party. And knowing how my husband is as far as making plans goes, he probably didn't stop to consider the date of the tournament. I have to CONSTANTLY remind my husband of upcoming events. Are you high risk? Do you have any reason to be genuinely concerned about driving two hours away on your own or is that just a reason you came up with to justify being upset with him? Are you both close to this friend's mother or was he just going to support you with your friend for an old woman that he has no affiliation with? I can understand your frustration but if I were in this situation I would have him go to the tournament and I would just attend the party alone. 

Ar

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I'd be equally as upset but I honestly wouldn't expect him to go to the party over the tournament. I'd be more pissed that I have to drive since I hate driving especially long distances.

Ju

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Honestly it wouldn't bother me. He made a commitment and you made one so you both keep them. That's just me though.

Je

Jessizu • May 7, 2016
i wouldn't be bothered either

Ju

Juno • May 7, 2016
Yes really lol.

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Emily • May 7, 2016
I agree. It's not something that would bother me.

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If it were my family members 90th birthday I'd be mad, but because it's just a friends mom and he had a previous commitment, I might be a little bummed, but Id get over it and just go alone, or find a friend to go with.

Ga

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In my opinion you shouldn't be upset. He had a prior commitment that you both had forgotten about. Your friends will understand that he already had something he said he would do.

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Gabby • May 7, 2016
also why is a grown man on a kickball team? I understand baseball or football but that's just me

Je

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I don't think it's that big of a deal. He made a commitment to his team and you made a commitment to your friend. Same way you say there will be other tournaments he may feel there will be other birthdays. 

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Jennel • May 7, 2016
Idk about all that. I forget about my doctor appointments often, that doesn't make them unimportant, it just makes me forgetful.

K.

K. • May 7, 2016
If he forgot about it, it obviously wasn't that important.

Je

Jennel • May 7, 2016
To me personally, this wasn't a situation that needed to be upset over. They both could have went to separate events and had no difficulties.

Em

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It's a 90th birthday...id be totally fine with hubs going to his tournament and I'd have no problem driving two hours, which I did today at 35 weeks, not a big deal 

K.

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Considering he made a commitment to both, he is to blame for his choices. I would be just as upset as you are; he needs better time management skills. I would be hurt and angry but expect him to fulfill his game commitment - but I would not be happy, at all.

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Ju • May 7, 2016
That's the aggravating part he didn't tell me so I could not remind him

K.

K. • May 7, 2016
Except that he didn't even remember the game until the last minute. He might not have reminded her or told her about it at all.

Ga

Gabby • May 7, 2016
it's something they both knew about so she could have reminded him of the game.

El

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I think you guys are forgetting the part where she said this friend has done so much for them ???