Am i the only one.....?

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.....that has absolutely no emotional bond/attachment to the baby inside me? 
Im not excited. I despise the movements in there. I cant stand the physical changes. I feel like i dont like him. I just want him out and to pass him off to my husband. Im like a host body and thats it.
Therapy does not help me with this.

Let the nasty comments about how im a horrible person begin....

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Some women truly hate pregnancy. There is nothing wrong with that. You will feel a much better connection to your baby after birth. With my first I think she was around 9 weeks old when it finally dawned on me that oh my gosh this is my baby. That's when the true bonding started. Before that I was just going through the motions.  Some women take longer to connect to the child just like most of the time men don't until after birth. Good luck...

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You are in no way a horrible person. I'm right there with you, I haven't enjoyed any part of my pregnancy and have zero bond with my baby. It's normal! As women we think we are supposed to find every aspect of pregnancy magical and beautiful and if we don't then we are horrible women who don't deserve to have a baby. Honestly after multiple miscarriages and unexplained infertility I thought I would cherish pregnancy but I hate it! I'm grateful for the opportunity to have a healthy baby but I'm not so grateful for the mental and physical challenges. Try not to beat yourself up; anyone who makes you feel bad for your experience is being an insensitive asshat. Pregnancy is a means to an end and you're almost done, hang in there :)

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Lol I was the same way with my first and in the beginning of the second pregnancy. I hate/hated everything about being pregnant, it's more of an annoyance that gets in the way of my life than anything.
 The second my son came I was completely in love! It's the best feeling in the world to love someone that much💜 I've been feeling the same irritation with this pregnancy too up until recently. I started getting the nursery ready and just had an ultrasound and baby is head down! Maybe I'm able to be excited earlier this time because I know what's coming. 
I think what you're feeling is normal, just stay open minded because the minute your baby arives your mama instincts will kick in and you'll be in love! Good luck!

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It's ok you feel like that, sometimes we want it so bad & when it happens it's like hold up this is not what I signed up for. Hopefully I'm due time your feelings will change don't feel bad.

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Some days I just accept that my emotions appear to have no connection to reality that day. Hopefully hormones and brain chemicals balance out again after the baby is here, and you are doing the right thing acknowledging your feelings and sharing and make sure you ask for help and ask if there are warning signs or things to watch yourself for if its not getting better.

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Nope.  I am not enjoying pregnancy one bit. I am excited about the baby. But I wasn't prepared for the emotional and physical burden. Don't feel bad. It's normal.  I'm miserable.

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I'm sorry what kinda person posts something like this and then end it with "let the nasty comments" begin? What kinda help are you seeking? You feel guilty already yourself based off your words so of course most of the comments will make you feel horrible.. Get a grip on reality. Every day won't be the same but your emotional state affects your baby too.

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That's really sad that you feel that way. I will say that I still don't believe it's real. I hope that it gets better for you!

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My friend had the same feelings and that's when she learned all about antepartum depression which is common but doesn't get near the attention that postpartum depression gets. She finally bonded with her daughter around 3 months and is a great mother. It's not that she didn't love her before 3 months, it just took her longer to adjust. She hated every waking second of being pregnant and will adopt before she has more children.

Don't beat yourself up over it. You really don't have any control of it and it will work out in the end. 💙

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Don't  feel bad lots of people feel this way.  I ve had a few days like this myself.  I always tell my husband I wish I was a kangaroo and pass the baby making off to him for a little bit.

Am i the only one.....?

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