He's never made me orgasm!
I've been dating an absolutely wonderful man for over a year now. We've only had sex about 14 times, and of course we play around with oral and manual stimulation plenty, but I've never been able to reach a climax with of him.
Most of the time I can tell that if he would just spend a little more time down there, it would happen eventually. But I don't feel comfortable asking for that, because it just stresses me out more and then I get too distracted to be able to orgasm anyway.
I really have no idea what to change. I've faked dozens of orgasms, which I know now is a problem because he's under the impression that I'm ready to explode after two minutes of clitoral stimulation. I don't want to tell him he's never made me cum because he's insecure about being able to please me since he only ever lasts up to about ten or fifteen minutes in bed. (Which really doesn't bother me.)
Sex isn't just about the climax to me, and I'd still be happy just to be close with him. But I feel like having an orgasm is a bonding experience that I'm not getting to be a part of.
Anyone have some advice to give or commiserating to do? I'm at a loss. :(
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