My boyfriend tried to kill himself

Ra

Rayne
Hello everyone, Im new to this whole this whole posting thing so please bear with me...
Anyways my boyfriend and I are 21 and in love with each other, however we've had our share of problems. We just broke up a few days ago before because I found out 3 days ago that he was more or less sexting another girl almost a month ago. I couldn't handle it. For the past three weeks he's turn around completely it's like he was a whole new man. No arguements, no cussing, just love. But once again when I found out, (the girl sent me screenshots of the messages via social media) I just couldn't take it. This morning I went to his house, and I found him lying face down with an empty pill bottle in his hand and an empty bottle of peroxide. I called 911 and he's fine now and in a hospital. How do I help him? What do I say to him?? When I found him in the floor I knew I couldn't live without him. I knew I don't want to spend another day of my life without him. I know I should have done more before it got to that point. I just don't know what to do now. Please help if any way possible 
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Mi

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You need to give him space and be sure the doctors help him. It's a toxic relationship , give him space

Mi

MissyYaYa 💋 • May 28, 2016
I've been there, done that. Trust me, distance yourself please. It will only bring u down hun

Ra

Rayne • May 28, 2016
I wish it was that simple, but I don't know how to give him space. I told him that maybe we needed space when he called me at the hospital and he said he needs me now more than ever, I don't know what to say to that 😔

An

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Whatever u do, don't take him back. I'm sure the doctors will refer him to some counsellors

Cy

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Getting back with him is not what he needs right now, or you. He obviously has some serious issues, he needs to work on them and on himself. The best thing you can do for him is give him the space to do that.

Ra

Rayne • May 28, 2016
This is true, I'll use that time to distance myself, thank you again

Cy

Cybilinside • May 28, 2016
That sounds awfully manipulative. Regardless, if he tried to kill himself, he's gonna be put on a psych hold anyway and they don't generally allow people on suicide holds to have a lot of access to the outside world so that would be a good opportunity to step back.

Ra

Rayne • May 28, 2016
I agree. But as soon as he became conscious in the hospital I was the first person he asked for, he wasn't allowed to have visitors but called me as soon as I left. I told him that we needed space and he said that I'm the one person he does need

li

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He needs to get psychological help. Do they have him on suicide watch? Most of the time when you go to the hospital after trying to commit suicide they keep you for observation. This just recently happened to my cousin. 

Ra

Rayne • May 28, 2016
They're keeping him for evaluation

As

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My ex recently killed himself. I say killed, because he was purple and dead for a period of time before he was located by his parents who continuously administered CPR and brought him back. This was in February. We have been broken up for six years and I'm happily married to my soul mate, but I spent six years with my ex, who was a heavy addict. He got tired of his addiction slowly killing him, and he attempted to speed up the process. We had rekindled a friendship. It broke me down the morning I got the news. I gave him a job, working for me, no questions asked. My husband and he became friends. My husband and I were heartbroken. We gave him time. Reached out once to him, and waited until he was ready to talk. He spent time in the ICU, then straight to rehab. He's sober now and back to loving life. Long road ahead, but I keep in touch with his sister and parents almost daily. My husband and he hike with our dogs. I saw him today, smiling and happy. It's a hard, long road, but yes... As others have said, space is important right now. Thinking of you and your boyfriend. 

Ra

Rayne • May 28, 2016
Thank you so much, this really helped me out 💕 but my boyfriend doesn't want space. He said in the one person that he does need during this time. We've always been here for each other no matter what and I just don't know how to let go. Honestly I don't.

Re

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Be careful hun. These kind of relationship can be toxic. I know you love him with all you heart and you would do anything to help him get better. I was in the same boat, but you can only do so much. There's a point when he is the only one who can help him. Don't let him take advantage of you and your love. He isn't in the right place right now so he doesn't think clearly. Always take care of yourself first. 

Iv

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He needs help and all u can do is stay by his side and support him any way u can. But u need to allow him to get help. I had a relationship like this once and stayed around to help him, after so many attempts to hurt himself and end it. He got annoyed with me for helping and tried to end my life.. So it's important to give Someone the space and allow him to get the help love and help from afar. At least in my experience I felt I should've allowed him to get help and stopped being too in the way. 

Ra

Rayne • May 28, 2016
Thank you

Me

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Honestly u have to go with ur gut, do what u feel u want to. But don blame urself for his actions. U can't convince urself u love him if u only feel that becuz ur scared of him doing something like that again. U need to really ask urself what YOU want. But then again, I'm only 16 years old and don have much experience... I wish u the best and hope u figure out what u want. If u need space, then keep ur distance tho. 

Ra

Rayne • May 28, 2016
Thank you!

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I just want to add, I am currently going through the SAME exact situation. And though my other comment gave the opposite advice as to what I did. I got back together with him, but I realize I still can it handle the thoughts of what he did.. but no matter what I was there to save him and support him and help him change into a better person and get his life together. And even though the thoughts KILL me.. he is still worth it and I still love him. You have to learn to forgive and forget. Over time the thoughts will fade, and if he truly loves you, he will prove that he does.

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Be his friend, be there for him and help him get better. Just don't get back together with him. Let him know that you still care and if he proves to change then Maybe it's an option