Shower/sprinkle etiquette?
I'm 27w with mo/di twins and they've already made it through stage 3 TTTS. We weren't going to have a baby shower because we were so scared and stressed but after the laser surgery to correct TTTS, the boys improved and when we hit that blessed 24 week mark, my family, friends and sisters begged me to let them throw me a baby shower.
So we're having a shower this Saturday and I am excited and will be extremely grateful for any gifts but I certainly do not expect them and have always felt a little weird about the tradition. I encouraged as many used items as I can and also gifts of "babysitting coupons," "household help" and "home cooked meals," because I recognize how expensive all this stuff can be and I don't want anyone to feel they have to buy something.
My cousin's wife is pregnant with her third child, due the same time as me and is wreaking havoc on the family because when she asked her MIL (my aunt) to throw her a baby shower, my aunt politely said she'd be happy to throw a small "sprinkle" bc this baby was a girl after two boys, but that it wasn't really tradition to have a full shower for every baby, not to mention that their older kid is about 4 and they got rid of all his baby stuff knowing they were trying for more kids. Also, apparently she never sent any thank you notes after the baby shower for her second kid, which my aunt put together for her.
Wellll my cousins's wife had a fit and is airing dirty laundry on social media, etc. and messaging me about it.
It's so freaking awkward because I'm having a large shower (my aunt will be there, her MIL). I just don't know how to respond... We aren't even close. Am I wrong about the shower/sprinkle etiquette? Is that a thing now? Having a big shower for every baby?
I keep avoiding the subject by saying "I'm sorry you're having a hard time. What can I do to help?" I've sent links to discount stuff, found some great deals on eBay, etc. As well as sent a few items through the mail.
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