I hate sex with my husband

Sex with my husband is horrible. He's so vanilla and doesn't ever want to try anything new. He doesn't believe in lube and refuses to use it in any situation. He won't do anal even tho I have asked him a million times to do it. But then tells one of his guy friends at dinner the other night that I won't do it cause I'm scared. Wtf. When he wants to have sex there is literally no four play and he doesn't even wait till I'm naturally wet he just spits a lot.... Sex with him lasts literally 10 minutes and it's done as soon as he has "finished".