Standards

So my boyfriend if almost five years won't have sex with me (at this moment) because I didn't shower with him earlier even though I showered this morning he basically said that I'm dirty because I've been to the bathroom and have sweated and that I basically need to shower to be fresh and clean to have sex with him...like I don't know what to feel or think right now because I mean i feel as though I shouldn't have to shower and be "squeaky clean" every time just to have sex with him I know this may sound silly but I really don't know how to feel about this I'm not dirty I'm a human fucking being and it makes me feel not good enough