When is it my turn?! 😡

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To start off, I don't believe that I am being selfish in any way, and hope that you ladies can understand where I'm coming from.
My fiancé and I have been together for 6 years, and sex for us has always gone the same way.... He NEVER lets me finish. As soon as he is done, that's it. And he never gives me any kind of warning, or a heads up- he just finishes and then gets up to shower. For 6 years, this has been the case, and I'm to the point that I can't take it anymore. Sex has been somewhat stressful because we've been ttc our first for 2 and a half years, and on top of that, there's no fun in it for me. I have brought this up to him several times, that even a heads up would be nice.. And it's just not something that he's comfortable doing (no kind of talk during sex.. He just doesn't like it). After that, I've even gone as far as suggesting he "tap out", or some kind of nudge to let me know that he's close to his finish line- nothing. I'm just so frustrated that sex is basically just about him and I'm always left hanging. Do any of you ladies have any suggestions on how to change this? Pleaseeee!

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If I were you I'd just as soon as he rolls off of you pop my hand down there and start finishing myself. Maybe that'll give him the kick in the ass he needs to see he's not pleasing you

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Get him turned on were you're close to having sex and then just get up and go do something else. Leave him unsatisfied and make sure you do something where it's harder for him to go off and finish him self off idk what but I'm sure you'll think of something.

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Oh, you poor girl! I'm sorry hun

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Stop having sex with him for a little bit and then see if he changes his mind.

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I get that's it's harder for girls so sometimes you won't get off and that's ok, but for him to NEVER put the effort at all? That's crazy. Buy a vibrator and get off in front of him and then don't give him any. See how he feels then.

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Make him wear a condom, so it's harder for him to come and just get out a huge vibrator, and start using it lol. 
Or- you could just do a lot of foreplay and then get the vibrator out and just tell him he can have sex with you when you're taken care of first. I've had amazing orgasms during foreplay. ITS ALWAYS LADIES FIRST. ;)

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Play with yourself as soon as y'all start having sex

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I wouldnt be inclined to have sex with him any longer until he learns that its not all about him and his needs. Lets see if it "phases" him now when he's not getting any and can now understand your frustration. Additionally,  I would suggest putting TTCing on hold until you guys figure this out and he attempts to change. Do you honestly see yourself being happy with someone who is that selfish in bed lomg term? Now throw a child into the mix, and it sounds like a disaster.

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wow you are patient! i would've been long gone after 6 times, not 6 years. 
now seriously, you say you tried talking to him but without any effect. now is the time to think about the future of your relationship. if this is something you could live with, than ok. but if not, you need to put yourself first, and find a man that will make you happy, not frustrated and sex deprived.

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Buy yourself a vibrator to stimulate your clit. Simply start using it mid sex and if he looks shocked tell him I wanna cum with you, I've asked you to make sure I finish and you don't so I need some help.

It's rare that I don't finish first but sometimes when I am on  strong pain killers I find it difficult to finish by time my husband is ready. My husband sees no issue with me getting a vibrator out to finish myself off and will always smile and ask afterwards "is that better now" while chuckling.

When is it my turn?! 😡

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