Struggling for real. PPD?

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Hey ladies. I'm 5 days pp and I can't do this!! I feel so defeated. My 2nd child 8 years apart. And almost 40!  What was I thinking?  Now here this LO is here and I can look at and hold and love but the bond of my 1st one is not there. Will it come?  I don't want to hurt him or me but I'm overwhelmed. I have so much anxiety. Especially at night. Like I feel like I'm coming out of my skin. I cry constantly. My DH is so lost with me like this. Doesn't understand and thinks I can just turn this stuff off. I tried breastfeeding and now have mastitis and I'm so done with BF. So now they have me wearing a tight sports bra and trying to dry me up.  I wake up soaked every night. It hurts like hell. The antibiotics they gave me make me feel sick as well as caused diarrhea. And recovery from c-section along with this is not fun. And to top it off my body threw me a fever blister on my nose. Like I wasn't down enough. Those always make me feel like I have the flu. My OB is calling this the baby blues but I Dont know. I'm trying to get my son on some sort of schedule and it all just feels so overwhelming. If I don't get any sleep I feel like I'm gonna die. Plus can't sleep during the day.  Have another child plus even when I lay down at night my anxiety is so bad I can sit still until it passes. So I cry for an hour or so. Thank goodness I have my mother in law here with me. We are trying to break up the night time feedings to give me a break. But after she leaves I feel so overwhelmed like I'm
Not gonna be able to do this. Please help.

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I would say this is just baby blues... I felt this way for a good two months my baby is now 6 months and every month it gets so much better! I feel like younger moms can be a little more flexible the older you are the more set in your life...your routines your job just in general so I think it honestly takes a little more adjusting now that your older...as long as you feel safe and you will not harm you or the baby I believe it's normal and you will get through it I promise! Mom groups will help people going through the same thing! Good luck

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It IS overwhelming at first, but you CAN do it! Baby will get onto a schedule, and once your body heals physically, you will be much more capable. 
Your job right now is to just care for your baby and yourself. Let gramma deal with the older child and meals and housework. You should be in bed with your baby and THATS IT! Once you get rest, you'll be able to think straight and it won't be so overwhelming. 
It took me a little longer to bond with my second too, btw, but now we are so in love. He is 3 and he is so sweet and cuddly, I can't help but adore him. He melts me. 
My thoughts and prayers are with you! You can do this! Just get help! Lots of help!

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I felt the exact same way. Scary anxiety, especially in the evenings. It made me feel like I had the flu, and like I wanted to crawl out of my skin. I'm seeing a psychiatrist. She's not certain yet if it's PPD or just baby blues (it will depend on duration) but she prescribed Ativan for the times I have the anxiety, and it is a huge help!! I actually can feel like myself again - like a thick curtain lifts. Explain to your doctor how severe you are feeling and ask about meds. Seek a second opinion if necessary. Even if it's only baby blues, there is no reason for you to suffer through.

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I would seek out a different doctor. It sounds like ppd. I had to go on wellbutrin. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Ask your partner to help you get treatment. If your doctor won't help. Go to er. And explain what is going on.

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Your emotions and the way your feeing are totally normal and it's OK to feel this way. It does sound like ppd but I'm no expert. Getting a 5 day old onto a schedule is probably not that practicle. But it will get better. Baby is needing momma and comfort and extra love. They are freshly from that warm cozy womb. I know you can't rest during the day but try especially since you have your mil helping. Can you hire a nighttime nurse for a few nights just to get some rest?

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I'm struggling in the same situation

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Sounds PPD for sure. I had a hard time like you, it took almost 3 months for me to bond with my son. I knew I needed help, it sounds like you have realized it too. If your dr is not helpful, find another!

Struggling for real. PPD?

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