A letter to his mistress

    I just had to take a minute to get a few things off my chest. I know that my husband has found an escape in you and I know that our personal relationship has been rocky for several months, but here are the facts that you neglected to take into account before entering into an affair with a married man. I JUST HAD A BABY. That's correct. 9 months ago I pushed a human being out of my lady bits which split in two upon his exit. I had numerous stitches down there that refused to heal and still cause me pain occasionally. This is all after a very difficult pregnancy of 10 months where 2 months I was on partial or full bed rest because of various issues and then developed preeclampsia at the end. Top off all this wonderousness with my husband being a closet alcoholic and having extreme depression and myself developing delayed ppd and it's a massive shit storm. The fact I was able to mother my son successfully, keep my home in tact, and keep my full time job is miraculous. 

I know he gave you the sob story about how I don't give him enough attention, but truth be told after he drunkenly peed all over my sofa, or maybe it was the time he was so passed out drunk that I came home to find my infant son trapped under a chair covered in vomit I didn't feel much like making love to him. 

Despite these and many other instances I stayed and I fought. I pushed myself to the edge and still tried to put on a happy face every day. I got him to finally go see a psychiatrist and get on meds to bring him back to me. We were becoming the family I always knew we could be. I actually started to feel that old flame growing in my heart and I was so thankful that through it all I stayed. 

Then one night I discover you. His dirty little secret. The person he has been interacting with when I was nursing my son, or sleeping beside him. You who don't know me but are now so intimately connected with me. To you all I have to say is why? Why would you enter into a relationship with a married man? To a new father with an infant at home? I saw the nasty pictures you sent him. I saw the comments you made about my son. Then the cherry on the sundae... You are also married and stepped out of your marriage for this. I just don't understand either of you. 

Don't misunderstand me. I have already had words with my husband about all this, but woman to woman. I fucking hate you. What gives you the right to do this? Who do you think you are? Do you feel better about yourself? I hope that one day when you are at your lowest and your husband and you start to have problems that you realize what you did here. Marriage is hard enough but it's women like you that make it even worse. Did you think for one moment about the child in the middle of this? That if I caught wind of it that his life as well as mine would be altered forever? Or did you just think about the rush and excitement? 

I can't ever get back those times that he was engaging with you and I will never be able to unsee the nasty explicit things you had texted my husband. One thing I do know is that I am a better woman than you. My husband despite every thing says the same thing. He called you ugly and a whore and told me he was just doing it because he missed me. I hope that nothing like this ever happens to you because it is the worst pain I can imagine short of something horrible happening to my son.  I hope that some day I can forgive both of you for destroying my life. 

Sincerely 

The Family you didn't consider