Go back to your wife and baby!!!!!😳

UPDATE: thank you for your comments I'm cutting off all communication. I Appreciate the feedback! xo
My ex left his wife after I spoke on the phone with him regarding job advice a few days ago! (He wanted my hep getting hired). We caught up too, we hadn't spoken in years. It was a nice conversation.
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Backstory: he was my first love, dated for 6 years and we broke up by choice bc we were stupid and romantic and thought we'd get back together when we were ready to settle down.  We will always care about each other but we both met other people. He got married, popped out a kid. 
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He called me today saying he left her!!!! Wtf!!!!
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All I could say is no no no no no please go back to your wife, please try therapy! 
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I know he wants another chance of being with me, and maybe I would have been interested before he got married!!!!!!
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I care and I want to help him but ahhhhh this is very messy and I have enough going on as it is! And he has baggage now and needs my help landing a better job, not exactly what I'm looking for in a man. 
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. Is there anyway I can give him some support in finding a better job while also not letting this drama in my life? I want to help him without it being at my own expense or having this escalate into a Jerry springer brawl. Advice???????!!!
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j

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You need to cut off all communication with him.

Li

Libby • Jun 26, 2016
I second this!

Ka

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I would just stay out of it. This could get verrrrrry messy with his wife. 

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I would tell him "I was helping you with job advice, because you couldn't see it as purely professional... I'm going to have to end all contact with you. You're married with a kid, go back to your family. If you need more job advice seek the local job counsel."What a jerk! Makes me think he married that poor girl when wanting you and any contact from you at all (even in this very professional sense) was enough to get him packing. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that job or naw.

Ch

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Your obligation to him ended the day you split. I'm very proud of you for taking a stand against it. Tell him if he wants a female to lean on then he needs to talk to the female he gave his last name too.

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Why does he need your help getting a job? And if that's all you two talked about then why'd he feel so strongly to leave his wife and child? If you seriously don't want anything to do with him you will get your number changed and discontinue any other communication 

Ka

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My advice is walk away. No more contact. It's a really bad idea.

St

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Why does he need your help getting a job?

Je

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Keep it strictly business. Make sure all meetings are public, and not super late, don't allow him to take u home, don't go out for drinks. Let him know ur expectations and if he can't deal tell him u will set him up with another person (if u know one) to help him with his job search. Just be honest with him that ur intentions on helping weren't to rekindle any past feelings. Good luck