Different outlook? What do you think?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and are very serious. We have been TTC for a few months now (no luck yet) and are beginning to plan our wedding. A few weeks ago his phone was on the charger while he played basketball so I decided to take a peek. I've never looked through his phone before but I've always been curious. He was texting this girl he works with saying things such as "hope you're having a great day!" "Miss you at work" "see you Thursday in class" (they are both teachers). Then his brother texted him asking if he had messed around with her and he said no. Now of course I confronted him and he said he's so sorry he's a jerk all this and I forgave him.

Few weeks later I went to connect my phone in his car to his Bluetooth and saw "her name's iPhone" as a choice!!!!!! He says she must have done it as a joke or the car picked up her phone when she went to grab something from it one day (which I didn't buy for a second). We have been kind of rocky ever since. I've asked him a million times he always denies it.

Yesterday I had shared a photo on Facebook saying "my man is my best friend" and I tagged him in it. This girl liked it! Then today she sent me a friend request on Facebook. He told me to block her and pay her no mind. But I'm not sure I can.

Now this may sound dumb, but to me, it's serious. It's serious because it could be the start to something bad and I refuse to be played with. So if I can catch this stupid stuff before it happens, I will. Please no negative comments I'm looking for advice and opinions. Thank you ❤️

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Honestly, if he hasn't cheated already he is definitely thinking about it. I would confront her. Since he is being less than completely honest perhaps it's time to get her side. If he has any respect for you and your relationship he will cut off all contact with her. The fact that he is entertaining a relationship with this girl (sexual or plutonic) is unacceptable especially after you've voiced your concerns. He is being straight up disrespectful and hella shady. Don't let him walk all over you. Add her and get to the bottom it.

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I would accept the request and ask her about it!

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I'm a teacher and actually very close friends with a guy who also teaches at my school. There are only nine teachers where I work so we run into each other lol Anyway, we are good friends, in fact he's one of my closest friends, I'm married and he has a serious girlfriend. The guy and I carpool to trainings and things together and have gotten lunch before. However, we make it a point to do double dates with our other halves and actually take summer and Halloween trips (all four of us). If she asked about me, he'd honestly say ask her either on FB or ask her in person but it's completely platonic and neither of us have anything to hide. Him saying to ignore her is shady as hell. That means he doesn't think of her as a friend but as someone who he'd be in trouble for being around. It's okay to be friends with the opposite sex but the  rule in our marriage is always "my friends are your friends" and I go out of my way to be friends with his girlfriend...now we just are truly friends.  We have a blast together on trips!

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I think he's definitely emotionally cheating. He's going out of his way to hide their relationship (even if it was a "friendship"), she's been in his car, he misses her? That's a red flag. I think he liking the picture was to tick him off, because I'm sure he's telling her something different. Then he deleted her and she's adding you? She's either got something to say to help you or to "help" him. Either way, talk to her that's gonna point you in the right direction.

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I think he's being disloyal to you sorry. In my experience guys don't text up girls in that way unless they are  interested in them. I think you need to really evaluate shit because you about to marry this man and he's already moving this way? Hmmmm

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Contact this girl and ask about their relationship. Don't be defensive just be straight forward.

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Send her a request or accept it if its still there. I would confront her and tell her exactly what he says. Tell her you know her name came up on the Bluetooth. Tell her you read the messages. And then last but not least tell her to come clean or back the fuck off.

Different outlook? What do you think?

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