When we found out we were pregnant we didn't tell them until we were out of the first trimester because in 2012, I got pregnant and we told them immediately. We asked them not to tell anyone and of course they did and I miscarried 2 weeks later. 

This time around, we told them that we weren't going to make an announcement anywhere. That just isn't our style and also, if something were to happen, I don't want to have to talk about it to 500 people and keep reliving it the way I did in 2012. We politely asked them to respect our wishes. We said that if there's someone we want to tell, we'll tell. Otherwise, we'll announce it when we feel ready (whenever that might be).

Well about 2 weeks ago, my mother in law informed my husband that she told her side of the family. 1) I don't even know these people. 2) even if I did, it's not their body, not their baby, it's not up to them to tell people when we specifically asked them not to. 3) they're literally taking the joy away from my husband being able to share the news with people. 4) it's the principle that they specifically went against our wishes. 

So I wrote out a kind text to her from my husbands phone saying "I know you're excited about this grand baby and you want to tel people. I know you also don't understand why we haven't told the world because you never suffered a miscarriage. But this has been very difficult and scary for us because of our previous loss. I'm not asking you to understand it. I'm just asking you to respect our wishes. You're also taking the joy away from me sharing it with people. If there's someone you would like to tell, please ask me first and I will either tell them myself or let you know if you can."

Well his mom never answered him. 

Then on Monday I found out they told my husband's uncle. My husband wanted to be the one to tell him. So they fucking ruined that too. He sent his dad a similar text. NO ANSWER. 

Well today I found out from my sister in law that the weekend that we send the original long text to my mother in law, my brother and sister in law had dinner at their house and they had the AUDACITY TO BITCH TO THEM ABOUT HOW WE WERE BEING UNREASONABLE. WHAT?!!?!!?? How the hell are we being unreasonable. ITS OUR FUCKING CHILD. IT DOESNT MATTER IF THEY UNDERSTAND IT OR NOT. ITS HOW WE WANT IT. 

So now I've just decided I'm not allowing them in my son's life. If they're going to talk shit about me behind my back, over a very personal issue, they can go fuck themselves. 

RANT OVER.