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Honestly he sounds a little bit like me. Even though I'm a woman...sometimes I hide my emotions or I'm afraid of my own emotions that I act like I don't care and I act a bit bitchy. I think he's just scared, nervous and doesn't know how to express those emotions. Don't worry, i bet he will come around
Is it him or me
I'm pregnant with my 3rd child, technically my husbands first child. We have two girls that are not biologically his. This is the first time I've had family support during a pregnancy and it has made me really excited and probably has given me high expectations.. well my husband popped that bubble. I'm 5 months and he will not and has not come to an a appointment with me even when we found out the sex he refused to leave work, but will take the whole day off for a dentist appointment. And I just recently found out he used me ( the pregnancy) as an excuse to leave work early to help some one move. But won't go in an hour late to come to an appointment with me.
Also didn't even touch my stomache or acknowledge our son until I forced him to about 3 weeks ago when his kicks became soccer worthy. And when I tried to show him the video of his heart beat he was blasé about it. He does take care of me when I'm sick, even the 2 am burger run. He does everything right, wonderful father/ husband and I know he's extremely excited, I'm not saying he isn't. I also know he's plays his emotions close to his heart even though he wears his heart on his sleeve. Emotionally he's just a big softy. But his whole attitude towards me and the extra I crave is driving me nuts. I've told him that him being minimizing his involvement make me like I'm doing it alone and I just him more active. And his response was to joke (he's a sarcastic @$$hole) that he be in the waiting room when I'm done.
Is it just me or is it him.. like is he terrified of impending father even though he is a father. I mean we got together when our youngest was 2, she is now 8. So maybe he just extras nervous because it's a baby baby or am I being overly emotional and expecting to much?
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My husband is the same way. He is excited for our daughter to be born in the next few months. But at the same time, he doesn't get excited to feel her kick or go to appointments or anything. He says it just doesn't feel real to him until he is holding her in his arms. Part of me understands. The other bigger part is very hirt and feels alone. Despite all the other people we have around us and his daughter and my sons, the only person i want to love on me and my ever growing belly, is the one person who can't bring himself to. It hurts so deep. Especially after we lost our son last year at 20 weeks along and he was the same way and didn't show his emotions after we lost him. Everyone brushes it off as a guy thing. I think it is a lame excuse. If they can be romantic and sappy about loving us behind closed doors, then being that way about their child isn't much of a stretch. Try not to take it to heart. He loves you and the baby. Sometimes guys are just selfish jerks
Mine was the same way. He came to my 20 week ultrasound for both our daughters but that was only because I insisted, otherwise he wouldn't have had any desire to go. He also would never want to feel the girls kick. None of these things were because he didn't care about them, or me. Pregnancy freaks him out and as much as it bothered me that he thought it was 'weird' or 'creepy' when he felt the Baby kick, I had to try and understand that pregnancy is totally different for men and women en. They don't experience any of the things we do and don't really grasp the reality of it until you're pushing the baby out! Try your best it to be offended. It's not you :) every one is different when it comes to pregnancy, but I can assure you he is not acting a certain way Intentionally.
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Ugh please excuse my typos. I have my youngest sleeping on my arm lol.
My husband is the same way he only came to two appts that I had ultrasounds with I also don't feel he needs to come to the twenty minute ones because they bore me haha he has even told me he won't fully be excited until she is here it's our third so it doesn't surprise me he isn't an emotional person
Mine is exactly the same. He hates all the appointments. He won't touch my bump long enough to feel a kick or even watch it long enough. He says he's not excited until he actually holds the baby... But even then I don't think he will. He loves asking waiters, neighbours or anybody if they'd like to be my birth partner as he will not be in the room (he will, at a push) and that he will be outside smoking cigars. It's so frustrating. It's such a short but special time and when your other half isn't interested it does make you feel rather alone Mine hasn't given me any special treatment. I still work full time and do most of the stuff around the house.... If I complain he says youre not sick, you're pregnant. Yet if I decide to do something that he doesn't want me to, like go to the gym, he says you shouldn't do that, your pregnant. I've given up trying to get him involved or interested. I hope he doesn't regret missing out on it. I understand that it's different for men and women, and he's supportive in other ways. But that behaviour does make you feel like you're going it alone.
I'm also 5 months pregnant with my third but my so first. He has not gone to any of my appointments and won't really touch my belly unless we are in bed and he cuddles with me. I have asked him why and he says he's just scared of the whole pregnancy. But he will ask how I'm doing and how was my appointment. I do not force it on him I just wait until he asks about it.
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