Just need to vent 😔

I'm very grateful for everything I've gotten and people have gotten me! It's just when I go shopping with my grandmother ( my moms mom ) she just shops on baby clothes she likes she doesn't even ask me how I like the clothes. I have a really picky taste when it comes to picking out things for my daughter and for the most part everyone have been accepting that. Everytime I put my two cents in she says " you need to learn you need to learn " I need to learn WHAT ? If it's not applying to my eye why would I put it on my child!? Just because the outfit is pink doesn't automatically make it cute! I don't like cartoon characters on little baby clothes that's just me I've asked a lot  of my family members not to buy that and of course they have been good at not getting that and as for my grandmother she says " I have no taste " this is my first baby why can't I dress her how I want too ? Like why isn't my opinion and feelings important to her ? Everything I pick up and think is cute she says is ugly and tells me to put it back , but at the end of the day IM paying for it! Like really !? I love Nike for babies and I found a lot of Nike outfits for her and little shorts to match and my grandmother told me " she doesn't need that " , but she needs the stuff your picking out ? I just don't understand at all! She even had a problem with the name I picked out which is Amya Annette she directly told me " you should name her something else I don't like Annette " like how rude is that? My feelings are extremely hurt! She keeps telling everyone she going to be in the room when I give birth but I strictly said my mom my bf and his mom ONLY! She told me that his mom can switch out with her like no! I'm sorry but I honestly can't deal! She's being so controlling I can't enjoy my pregnancy because of her anything I do is WRONG anything I say is WRONG! if I buy something she says" she already had that and doesn't need anymore " who are you to tell me what my child needs or doesn't need!? Like why can't I enjoy this experience? This is my first little girl and I just want to be happy with buying my baby girl stuff without any bullshit! My mom has talked to her but she doesn't seem to want to listen. I don't know what to do anymore this is so stressful!