Previously sexual objectified.. not in the mood.

When I was married my ex used me alot just for sex. So now I struggle alot with being in the mood if I'm not paid proper attention through the day or whatnot. Well I went through a rough week or so with work and kitty killing season I flat out was not having it. Now my boyfriend rarely gets off with me when we do have sex, I mean like we're talking once a month, if that. Now he tells me during that time he "took care of himself" several times during my dry spell.

I'm glad he wasn't out chasing tail getting it someplace else, but also hurt that he can get off to himself but not to sex with me. And it's not like we stop sex because I can't go anymore. :/