Should I tell him?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together a for about 8 months now and I've never told him how I got sexually abused at daycare when I was little. I feel like I should tell him before we have sex because I'm scared that memories will affect me during it. But I don't know how I would or if I should because what if he doesn't want to be with me when he finds out because I have a lot of issues. Should I tell him ?

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Tell him, it might be nice to tell someone who really cares and won't judge& Sorry for your abuse xx

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I would tell him so he knows how you feel when doing anything sexual. And if he's a man then he will not leave you.  Because men does not run away from big obstacles, they concord it, only boys run away like a bitch.

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Would you want to be with someone who won't accept you for who you are? It's part of who you are. It influences the way you react to things. If he can't handle that, then good riddance. Tell him. If he cares about you, it won't change his feelings about you. If it changes his feelings about you, then that is someone you don't want to be with in the first place.

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To be completely honest, I went through something like this as a child as well. I've been with my bf for 3 years. I felt like I needed to tell him bc I didn't know how I was going to react to us having sex. Your bf should be there for you, and if he's not then he's not the right guy for you. When we decided to have sex, he took things very slow and made sure I was ok with everything we were doing. He still does it. The way I went about it, is that I told him that I need to tell him something important, and I did it in person. You could go about it differently, it's totally up to you. Best of luck, and I'm sorry for what you had to go through.

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You guys should be comfortable with each other and if you've lasted that long in any relationship, he should want and love you enough regardless. If you trust him then confide in him! Things are much easier in a relationship when you haven't got built up worries in your head❣

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