This is going to be a really sad question, but how do you learn to love yourself? I've always had a really low self esteem, I'm a perfectionist and don't feel like I'm ever good at anything. In relationships I always look for a guy to tell me nice things about myself, to validate me, like tell me how pretty I am or things like that. I always end up being too nice, don't speak my mind, avoid arguments, just for sake of being liked. If we break up, I'll cling on to them so much, hoping for them to come back, even if they were in the wrong. I'll just forgive and forgive and not walk away.