Because this is the real world, and we are real moms...
Yesterday I posted a straight to the point reply to someone who sought advice about her life...basically about her SO doing drugs in the house with her kid in the same house, and about lying about doing cocaine. Serious stuff, right? It was deleted either by the poster or admin. Maybe this will too but I think I speak for a lot of moms in this message....so take a minute to hear it out please.
This is the real world. Real life. We are all real women in a very delicate stage in our lives. Bringing a life into this world, whatever the circumstance may be.
I know a lot of us moms are having some stressful times. There are many challenges mothers face...whether it is a difficult pregnancy, work, family problems, spouse problems, school, health issues, etc. Nobody's life is perfect and mine certainly is not! We each have a story, a battle..
I appreciate mamas posting their life issues here, there is some great advice from those of us ladies who have been there and understand, or other moms going through the same things.
But. If you post here about your SO's drug problems around your kids..about your SO beating you, or treating you like crap..and you do not appreciate honest, realistic advice?? What is the point? You get defensive when real, honest advice is given. Or you don't like what you hear. Is it that inconceivable when someone tells you to dump your man if you're getting beat or he's doing drugs around your kids??? You want to risk your kids' safety? You want to risk getting your kids taken away??
Ladies. You are worth more than that. You don't need that. And most of all, your CHILDREN do not need that! Your job as a mother is to protect them. Not enable your SO. Not to get sympathy for yourself or your SO if he's doing drugs around your kids or abusing you! No person will tell you "oh it's ok!" It's not ok! Here, we can offer support, advice, encouragement.. Absolutely. But don't get defensive when some of us give you some true life advice. Don't get upset when you know what is right, and what is wrong. And most of all, what is best for your baby. It is your job as a MOTHER to protect your child from harm, even if that means getting that child away from a toxic person... YOU are their first line of defense. Their protector. Their mother. Be everything you can possibly be for their sake. That, to me, is what being a mother means.
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